trying to get teenagers to help around the house
Hi All We're a blended family of 3 teenage boys 19 18 and 14 and as a family we get on well, I need some help in trying to get all of them to do more around the house, my Partner and I do long hours I do up to 75 hours a week and my partner just doesn't stop so trying to get them to do the washing up hang out the clothes or anything it's hard it's just easier to do the job yourself and its annoying frustrating etc especially when I do 15 hour days plus I've a major garden project on the go and of course no help there either
we can't bribe them with anything they just dont care and it causes disharmony in the house which is why we leave it but were getting tired etc doing all the house hold chores any ideas would be great cheers
Do they have cars, laptops,
Do they have cars, laptops, video game consoles and phones? Those are earned privileges. Those who don't help out don't get those privileges.
Create a list of chores, by kid, and expect them done by whatever date/time you give them, or privileges such as those listed are lost.
And if the older two don't like it, they can move out.
thanks for the reply, but the
thanks for the reply, but the two older ones bought there own stuff and so how can I take it off them also there 6 ft 3 and I'm only 5 9in and at times it can get quite fractious and that would cause more upset
I guess what I'm after is how to get them to realise it's there house too and we cant do everything.
My partner is too soft with them so it causes arguments between us
He could change the wifi
He could change the wifi password. No wifi for them if they don't help out.
They aren't going to help out because they want to, they have gotten away with not doing it for too long. Your SO needs to tell them to help out or move out, and if he won't do that, they there isn't much you can do, other than let him know it's affecting your sanity.
If you set the limits, they will just blame and hate you, so he has to do it.
Yep, new wifi password every
Yep, new wifi password every day, and they don't get it until all chores are done.
It's unfortunate they weren't given chores when they were younger- SD9 and SS13 have had chores for years, and it's no big deal now.
Even as a young adult
and my brother buying and building his own pcs, if he’d been disrespectful or rude and not do chores, my mum would threaten to confiscate it... my brother wouldn’t dare threaten to report to the cops as he had a great privilege living at home and with that comes chores and doing your part...
i have a ss who’ll be 21 next month, he’s such a lazy shit. Every excuse possible oh and chores are a womans job apparently.