SS’s bday was yesterday, he turned 13. Skids were at Crazy’s this wknd, so we celebrated tonight. SS had asked me if I would make his bday cake, he loves my baking and there is a specific cake he really loves. I was flattered that he asked, so I gladly made it yesterday. His Gma, Gpa, Aunt and Uncle were also coming over and I wanted SS to have a meal he liked (my SO is not much of a cook), so I decided to grill burgers, brats, and sides. I wanted to do this for SS, No one expects it. I took a long lunch at work to run to get food, and left work 30 mins early (I’m obviously a super dedicated employee. Lol) so I would be able to go to the gym and get home early enough for this all to go down. My SO had messaged me today asking what time I would be home- I said 5:30. He didn’t say anything about that. Mind you, normally I don’t get home until after 6, and even if I skip the gym It’s 5pm. 

Fast forward to me getting home at 5:20 (10 mins before I said I would be home, and 20 mins later than I would if I skipped the gym), and my SO is standing outside. I said, hey what’s up? He irritatedly says “Not much, just waiting for you”.  I looked at him in surprise and said, what? He gave me an extremely annoyed look and said “yeah”, and walked past me. Now, none of his family had even arrived at our house yet. I said, wait, are you somehow MAD at me?? He said, I have to go to bed soon and you just couldn’t skip the gym once and come home, blah blah blah. Folks, I about lost my damn mind. Not only did I make a cake, buy food for YOUR son’s bday, I took a long lunch and left work early so I could be home to get it all done before he had to go to sleep before work! Instead of being appreciative, he thought he was going to get pissed off at me and be a d*ck because I was home 20 mins later than if I skipped the gym?? Nope nope nope. I said all of that ^^^ and told him he should be thanking me for going out of my way for his kid. That got me nowhere so I told him he could f*ck off and make his kids bday dinner himself. I was shocked and livid. Of course right then his parents show up, and are all chatty, and I’m so mad I’m almost in tears, but trying to act normal. I wasn’t going to cause a scene or ruin SS’s bday, so I did cook anyway.

At one point I was in the kitchen by myself, almost in tears (I cry when I’m mad), and SD came in and asked what was wrong. My SO came in a minute later and said that it didn’t have to be like this. I once again told him how it was total bullshit that I did all of this stuff for SS’s bday, made a cake, left work early and only got home 20 mins late, but all of that didn’t seem to matter at all, he thought it was worth it to get mad and be a jerk because I came home 20 mins “late”. I reminded him that I had told him via text that I wouldn’t be home until 5:30, and he didn’t say a word then, when he could have nicely asked me if I could be home earlier. I said, I guess you decided it would be better to not say a word and get mad at me and ruin the night instead. This all took the wind out of his sails and he sat there with nothing to say-he knew he was wrong, I could see it on his face. 

After that he changed his tune and bragged to his family that I made the cake and how good it was, how good the food was, and before he went to bed he gave me a kiss and thanked me for doing it all. SS had thanked my SO for the gifts, but didn’t say anything to me. I was bummed and rethinking it all. The hell if I’m going to go out of my way for unappreciative people.

Also, my SO of course had to buy SS as many gifts as possible. 2 pairs of shorts, a jersey, blanket, a video game, and more. Over $200. Even the Avengers gift bag I left out for him to use wasn’t good enough, he went and bought a new one. As if SS gives a shit what the bag looks like. Money is no issue when it comes to skid presents!

But just when I thought all hope was lost, SS came into the living room and said, “Hey step-girlfriend? Thank you for making the cake and food and doing all of this for me”.      

Ah, step-life.