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I just drank my first full bottle of wine

Gwynnafaye's picture

Oh hell.  I know this is not the forum or place for this.  It's not step related at all.  I just drank my first full bottle of wine on a fucking work night!!  That's not healthy.  I lost my son September 28, 2018.  He took his own life.  WTF/WTH???  Yeah, I'm drunk.  Yeah, I know it's not healthy, but here I am.  If you didn't know me before, I used to be onehappygirl.  That was a lifetime ago.  My DS used to be Spongebob.  But he's gone now.  Life was too much for him, and here I am trying to survive without him.   I still have Starr (DD now 19) - she is my rock, KittyKat (SD now 18) and Sheldon (SS now 22).  It seems a lifetime ago when I was onehappygirl.  Now, like the old member soverysad, I'm So Very Sad.  FML!!  

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tog redux's picture

Wow, I'm so sorry about your son. When someone dies by suicide, grieving is especially complicated.  Please take care of yourself and get some help.

StepUltimate's picture

Lots of love to you. I am sorry you're in pain, I cannot imagine your loss. 

Hope you take good care tonight, drink lots of water for the wine. 

morrginme's picture

I'm not going to judge. I drink sometimes too (lately a bit more than usual). I agree about drinking lots of water.

I'm sorry for your losses and hope you keep seeking out the support you need.

notsurehowtodeal's picture

I have been known to drink a whole bottle by myself on occasion. It is ok as long as you aren't doing it with some frequency. I get it, sometimes you just want to forget the pain. I am so sorry you are going through this. I can't imagine what you must be feeling.

You will never be the old onehappygirl, but with time you will find your new version of happygirl. Please take care of yourself and find what you need to make it through.

Chmmy's picture

This must be awful. If there was anything I could say to comfort you I would but I can't imagine. I live for my 2 sons.

My ex, my boys bio dad kiiled himself in 2014. While any loss is difficult, suicide leaves its mark with the what couls I have done differently question always on the mind. It doesnt sound like drinking a bottle of wine is helping. I was a runner when this happened amd I really threw myself into running until I physically hurt myself and couldnt run for a while. I ran uphill in all weather including snow. The snow added a resistance as well as the hill. I read later that when people do this the physical pain outweighs the emotional pain for the moment. While I dont suggest hurting yourself as I did, i injured my achilles on those snowy hills, Id suggest a healthy outlet. Working out is my savior in life. If you can bring yourself to making it a habit, I promise you wont regret it....unless you injure yourself, ugh that hurt for a while.

Im so sorry for your loss. I cant compare losing an ex to you losing a son. My most difficult task was helping my son through the pain of losing his dad. It hurts knowing your kids hurt. If it means anything I will say a prayer for you.

Hope you slept it off and wake up feeling slightly better.

 

justmakingthebest's picture

No judgement here! I do wish I could give you a hug though. 

The pain you are feeling has to be more than all consuming. Parents aren't supposed to burry their children. It is unnatural. My receptionist lost her son to an overdose in October. The heartache is more than she can bear still some days.

I am going to PM you...

Monkeysee's picture

I’m so sorry for your loss. You get no judgement from me, I can’t imagine how unbearable the pain you must be feeling is.

I hope you’ve set yourself up with a grief counselling to help see you through the loss. Having professional support really helps, as does having a healthy outlet for everything you’re feeling. Lots of love & hugs xx

Siemprematahari's picture

I'm sorry for your loss and virtually sending you much peace, love, and compassion.

Hugs

XoXoX

Aniki-Moderator's picture

I am so very sorry for your loss. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Do you have grief counseling available? A frienf of mine's son took his life on Thanksgiving, 3 years ago at age 26.. She and her other 2 children have all been in grief counseling. Her daughter is an adult (now 26), but her youngest is 13 (10 when it happened). The youngest has been to two grief camps (held during the Summer) and all of them have been to a variety of groups and "camps" to help them cope with the loss. Please take care of you.

classyNJ's picture

Hugs and healing thoughts.  Noone but you will ever know your pain and grief but it does help to know that we feel for you.  

Please take care of yourself.

Gwynnafaye's picture

I really appreciate all of the comments.  It hurts like hell, but I feel better today.  As the 28th approaches each month, I've notice that it builds and builds until I explode.  Once I get past the 28th, I'm okay again.  I just don't recognize it when it's happening.