How many years of stephell can we take?
Since I started stalking a few months ago, Ive seen a lot of "Im leaving" or "DH left me" or "I want to leave but...insert reason".
My reason for wanting to leave is I dont want to do all this stephell life so that in 5 years or 10 years of struggling I get a divorce. Im 45 with 2 grown & independent children...what a waste of life that would be. Im on vacation with my brother's family this week. I miss DH a lot. Im having some health problems, nothing too bad but Im seeing a dr, figuring out what is wrong and what Im going to do to make it better. DH is so supportive, my best friend, would do anything for me & loves me. I wish we never married and could go back to the way it was, separate residences, me not a smom, we still interacted and helped out with each other's kids but I had a home to go back to. He wouldnt go for a separation. Hed flip & I'd lose him.
My question is why do you stay? Why did you leave? Regrets? Tell me your story.
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I stay because DH and I have
I stay because DH and I have a good relationship, and he's done everything possible to protect me from the stephell nonsense.
In my case, SS was not really the problem, at least not on a daily basis, and not until he got more and more alienated. BM was the real problem, and DH did everything he could to set limits on BM. He was a good parent who never expected me to parent his son, and never let SS misbehave. SS liked and respected me and we got along well.
I see light at the end of the tunnel for me, rather than darkness, like you see. I see a time when BM has no more legal control over DH.
I don't know why some of the people on here stay. I have it good compared to some of them.
I have it real good compared
I have it real good compared to some except that the kids live with us 90% & there are 4 of them.
DH is supportive & is trying to change his Disney ways. I guess Im being pessimistic but with 4 Disney-raised skids, I don't feel like it will ever end. There will forever be drama. They're not very likeable kids, i doubt they will be productive, likeable adults.
I'm really hoping it gets
I'm really hoping it gets better at 18 so we aren't held to a school schedule, school basketball schedule and BM. I know different drama and problems will arise but I'll stay optimistic. 1 more year.
BM leaves us alone until she needs something or needs DH to be the bad guy, which promotes her PAS campaign.
Because DH realized that I
Because DH realized that I and us were the most important thing to make life happy and worth doing. If you don't have that, then you don't have anything to guide you when keeping things prioritized. The couple/marriage always has to come first for both people to make a second, or third etc.... marriage work. As long as one of us put kids first, aka baggage, it didn't work as we were pulling apart from each other, instead of a united push against the world.
A separation might be necesary to get it thru your husband's head. We ended up seperated for 18 months. It was what my DH needed to realize what was important to him. We also had therapy during all of this, solo and joint as we put it back together so DH could learn to manage his baggae yet keep us. It takes work, hard work. You can't do it alone. It won't work.
I stay because I love my DH
I stay because I love my DH and we have a wonderful marriage. He is proof that a father can leave the Disney Dad behind and return to actual parenting.
Thank you for the
Thank you for the encouragement. We are trying to exit Disneyworld but the kids arent following
I've been in stephell for
I've been in stephell for over 5 years...4 years where my SD lives with us full time. I stay because my DH is a wonderful husband. He tries to be a good father and not a Disney dad. He stands up to BM. He is my best friend and we have a good life. Also, he treats my 2 bios (his skids) well.
Yes, BM is a pain and SD is sometimes difficult to live with, but my DH makes it bearable.