My husband and I have been attending marriage counseling as well and individual counseling for the past 4 months and so far so good. Our daughter is happy and my son is doing great. You would think I would start enjoying my peaceful life but not if my husband babymama can help it, I guess. This isn’t just another post to bash baby mama. What I’m stating are facts not assumptions to make her look bad. The problem is this. She has played a huge role in causing drama in my home since I met my husband. Mostly after we married. From trying to turn their two kids against me, stealing my husbands tax money, constantly texting a calling husband about her abusive and drug addict boyfriend she chooses to stay with, saying she doesn’t have food for the kids even though she always gets her child support on time and received extra cash on the side for school clothes etc from my husband and I. Yes, I understand it’s his responsibility as a father. I’m just making it clear that we actually make it a point to make sure the kids are taken care of. From a drug overdose, suicide attempt, using me as personal babysitter, overdosed and trying to commit suicide in front of son last year. I mean this women is exhausting to keep up with. We tried working with her and helping her but she only took advantage and continued her ways. So, for the past year she hasn’t worked and yet isn’t able to take her son to her drs appointment and schedules them on my husbands day. Kids complain that she sleeps all day, drinks and doesn’t make them breakfast because she always sleeps in and never has time to make them any. It’s so hard to watch since I’m a step mom and I can’t only help without really legally having a say. My husband has always tried to avoid drama with her and he’s always tried to help even though it has effected our marriage. Situation has only gotten worse with her. Well after all the back story of all this I needed advice on a recent event. About 2 weeks ago they’re son (12) called me and asked to speak to his dad that it was an emergency. He told us that his mom wanted us to pick him and his sister up because his mom didn’t want them there anymore and “loves her boyfriend more then she loved them”. Her exact words. She got on the phone and said that we need to come get them or she’s going to call foster care to get them. She said she didn’t want the kids and didn’t love them. That she only bought them things so they could “shut the f*** up”. Again, Her exact words. She told us we could have them and have us full custody and that after we got them she didn’t want to hear from us, the kids or her family ever again. That she wanted to be alone. We asked her if she was on drugs or something because she sounded so off and she Said yes. She said that she was on drugs, alcohol and everything we can imagine. My husband called the cops for the first time fearing his kids would be hurt by the time it took us to rush over. When we got there the kids were waiting in the backyard scared. We got an incident report and took the kids home. Her daughter (7) tried texting her crying and her mom blocked her number, my husbands and her sons. A week went by withought hearing from her or her reaching out to the kids. We got a lawyer so we can file and emergency mediation For full custody after her son said they’re was a pipe, burnt foil next to her night stand and we feared she would try to pick him up under the influence and put them in danger. Emergency request got denied and we needed up getting a court hearing for March. The day we filed for the court hearing through our lawyer, their office tried to contact her to give her a let her know what was filed. That same day she called and asked to see the kids. CPS got involved and came over to see how the kids were doing and interviewed the kids and both said they felt safe in our home and didn’t want to move back. She has been to our home once and stayed In her car while the kids went to hangout with her for 30 min since we didn’t want to feel we’re keeping the kids away from her. We just want them safe and away from her constant BS. Today we finally heard back from the social worker and they are having the kids stay with us for a week until she get psychologicaly evaluated and then they will go from there. I guess his ex decided to make herSelf sound like a victim and saw an opportunity to isolate me in this situation. She told the social worker that I was a problem and wouldn’t allow them to co parent. Which is not true. The social worker told me to step aside and this is between my husband and his ex only. I explained to her that on the days she was too drunk to pick up the kids I took them to school. When she was forced to take rehab classes I watched the kids for her. When she said she didn’t have food for the kids in her home I took them grocery shopping and told my husband to take the food over. When she tried to overdose to kill herself I took the kids for 3 months while she went out with her boyfriend and got her hair done claiming she needed time to herself to get better. While still paying the full child support. She told the CPS lady that this has nothing to do with me but it has everything to do with me since my husband works and I take care of both kids. While taking care of my own. 4 kids total 8 month old while working at home. I can’t believe how all of a sudden I became the issue when it was all her bad choices that has gotten her here. So today she texted my husband asking to go out to dinner with her and the kids alone. My husband told her he didn’t feel comfortable with that. He told her she can come and hang out with the kids outside until the evaluation next week. She told him that that not him trying to co parent with her Suggesting she was going to tell CPS. I just don’t know what to do anymore