Dh asked mil for OSS and YSS's number since they both blocked them on everything a few years back. She gave them and he texted them both saying "Hey [OSS/YSS]  I miss you very much and I'm asking if you would consider meeting up with me in order to put the past behind us and work on becoming  family again."

 OSS didn't reply and  YSS went off! He told DH everything in regards with OSS and how we did him wrong. 

OSS was not allowed because he was a troubled teenager and was not responding to help and then later called CPS claiming we abuse him. At the time Bm's boyfriend moved in her home and he was abusive. OSS had to witness Bm get hit. He would get involved to keep the boyfriend away from Bm but Bm would only get mad at OSS. Remember, OSS also had to witness Bm and Dh fight.  Bm would hit Dh and OSS would literally come between them in order to save Dh. OSS hated Bm but at the end of the day what child wants to see his mother get hit in front of them? YSS called Dh a horrible human being because he failed OSS and sent to the very place he was trying to get away from. It's not okay for him to see this happen by the way!

After he graduated high school, he moved out from Bm's and moved into the college dorms. YSS did the same. When OSS was nineteen, he went depressed and tried to commit sucide. YSS was the one that found him, he called the in-laws and OSS was hospitalized because he was considered a threat to himself. He wanted to see DH. YSS called Dh a POS of a human being for not responding to anyone texts messages. Dh is not a cruel man. Had he recieved any information about this, he would have stopped whatever he was doing in order to go see OSS. YSS claimed that everyone did text him but he never responded. YSS wrote  when news got back to OSS that Dh never responded that was when Dh was considered dead to him.  OSS never put any pressure on YSS to not have any contact with Dh but YSS did not want anything to do with Dh for how he "abandoned" OSS. 

I swear, he never recieved any text messages of such. If he had he would have went to go see OSS ASAP.  Dh cried the whole day. When he showed me the messages,  my heart broke. If OSS had told us back then what he was experiencing at Bm's house, we would have brought him back immediately. But he never said anything. He refused to meet with DH. In his mind, I took Dh away from him. He finished by saying that Dh picked his new family over them and his was all his fault and stopped replying after that. I've never seen Dh look so broken before. 

Dh feels terrible and considers himself a failure. OSS loved Dh more than anyone and he looked up to him. OSS idolized him. Dh loved both of his sons equally but had softer side for OSS than YSS. This whole estrangement has been hard for all three of them. But in his sons mind, it's my fault. 

Dh did called up the in-laws right away and they confirmed everything YSS had stated. Dh started crying hysterically. He ask why no one contacted him when OSS was in the hospital and mil yelled that everyone did but he never responded. His own family doesn't believe him. How could they think so little of him?  She said that we treated OSS horribly and it is Dh's duty to repair things with his sons. 

I want Dh to fix things with his sons. He misses them very much- especially OSS. I don't know if they love Dh more than they hate me. Given the chance, if they could eliminate me, they would jump at the opportunity and I can guarantee OSS would love to be the one to pull the trigger.

As for Dh giving me the silent treatment, Dh did apologize for how he's been acting. I stated to him that I understand that he's hurting but that does not give him an exuse to use me as a punching bag for his anger. Wish I could say the same to his sons. 

 I know the worst is yet to come and I know my marriage will be in jeopardy. Stay tooned.... I have a feeling I will be posting again sooner rather than later