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Stepmom2345's picture

Submitted by Stepmom2345 on Thu, 10/18/2018 - 8:38am

After almost 10 months of having the SK's at our house their mom has finally decided to come for a visit.    Originally, she had said she would be picking them up on Thursday and dropping them off on Friday.  Now she will be picking them up at 9am today and dropping them off before dinner.  I’m glad she’s finally making an effort to come see her kids.  But honestly I would have loved to have at least one night alone with DH.  I get home from work at 5pm and I’m sure that’s around the time they will be dropped off so to me it won’t even feel like they were gone at all.

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justmakingthebest's picture

Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 10/18/2018 - 8:51am

Seriously... that is awful. Not only for you (I am so sorry you can't even get one night out with your DH) but for the kids too! 

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Thu, 10/18/2018 - 9:36am

Clearly you can’t depend on her to take the children but that doesn’t mean you can’t get time alone with your DH. You’re no different than a nonblended family.

Clearly you can’t depend on her to take the children but that doesn’t mean you can’t get time alone with your DH. Yes BM should be a parent but you’re looking at her like a babysitter. How would you handle it if BM were dead? Complain that BM doesn't keep the kids or do what non blended familes do? Find a babysitter, family friend, or let the kids stay the night with a friend if they are old enough. You don't need BM to have time alone with your DH.

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Submitted by Stepmom2345 on Thu, 10/18/2018 - 10:20am

Clearly, I cannot depend on BM for anything.  And clearly BM is not dead …. I don’t live in a pretend world.  What I complain about, but I prefer to call venting is that it would be nice if she could spend more than just 8 hours with her kids yes so that I don’t have to hire a babysitter or family friend or have the skids sleep over at a friend’s.  No she is not a babysitter she is their mom. 

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Submitted by Siemprematahari on Thu, 10/18/2018 - 9:50am

Not sure if I'm assuming here but I don't think Stepmom2345 is looking at BM as a babysitter. I'm sure she wishes BM would spend some quality well deserved time with her kids and there is nothing wrong with wanting a day off to be with your H. It doesn't take away from her at all. Biological kids or step children, most parents would love a "day off". I would also think that a BM would want to spend more time with their child after being MIA.