SD quinceanera
So my SD wants a quinceanera I've been there since she was 1 with my DH. SD will be having a quinceanera in a couple of years me and DH are both Catholic but BM is not she thinks it's stupid to have a " big party" for a15th birthday. My SD does not want to invite BM because she doesn't want drama with her. We haven't started the planning because we are early I'm just not sure how to go about planning this party without looking like I'm excluding BM I mentioned to my DH that BM can have her own party since she doesn't believe in quinceanera anyways. What should I do? Because SD has family on the BM side that she will want to invite. I want her to enjoy her night and not worry. But I know BM doesn't like it when she's not getting attention she made a big deal of me and my DH taking pictures with SD and our kids at her baptism, and us not taking pictures with her, although she could've been taking her own pics. I'm just lost at what to do its always drama as BM has always felt threatened by me and my relationship with SD. BM is not married but does have a BF.
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No reason to include BM.
No reason to include BM. “Ignore the whore!”
From my understanding a
From my understanding a quinceanera can cost as much or more than a wedding! So I think that it is smart to start planning now if you are doing it. If BM thinks it's stupid, she doesn't have to be there. Just make sure SD isn't playing both houses for a quinceanera and a sweet 16!
Just like a wedding,
a Quincinera can cost as much or as little as you want it to. In traditional families, other family members step up and "sponsor" items for the party, greatly reducing expenses. It is also becoming more common to combine a Quencinera and a Sweet 16 into one celebration.
If SD doesn't want BM there, don't invite her. Just remember that her feeling could change in the next two years.
Since it's SD's occasion, I
Since it's SD's occasion, I would allow her to exclude her BM is she wanted to. However, I would let her know that she needs to own that decision - no telling her BM that it was anyone's decision but hers.
Any one I went to
started in Church, with a mass, then there some after mass. Then to a place as house, hall for after party. There are like bridal party with ten to twenty kids. Brother and sister of 15 yo. If she does not want BM there that her choice. But BM will be madd at you for the rest of your life.
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just tell BM that she's already expressed disinterest in the quinceanera and you respect that she wants to do something different for SD's bday. Feel free to invite whoever SD wants. And if anyone asks SD where her mom is, she can say she and her mom are doing some mom/daughter bonding at a different time and she's super looking forward to it. Drama averted and everyone comes out smelling like roses.