Happy Father's Day...NOT
BM's biodaughter calls DH dad. She is 21 or 22. She has a son and the son calls dh grandpa. I see a pattern, she only calls him when she NEEDS (AKA wants) something.
She gave her son, age 4, a birthday party Saturday before Father's Day. She invited dh to go. I try to stay away from her so I do not go to birthday parties or anything else she plans. She is full of drama.
So Saturday about an hour before her son's birthday party, she calls DH. Just prior to this call, dh told me that he was running short on funds until his payday. Dh and I have seperate bank accounts. Can anyone guess why she called? She wanted DH to pay for the pizza for her son's birthday party. I could hear DH on the phone. He tells her that his money is "tight" right now. Apparently, she is begging and he finally gives in. Her sad story, her bank account was overdrawn by $90.00. I inform DH that since she has cake, she can serve cake at the birthday party. She doesn't NEED pizza and if I was him, I wouldn't buy it. She had a pool party for a bunch of 4 year olds. These kids are not interested in eating pizza. They want to swim in the pool and eat the icing off of the cake. Of course, I am wrong and DH buys the pizza. He was able to get the $5.00 pizzas at Little Caesars. He spent over $40.00 for pizza.
Who in the H%$$ plans a birthday party and doesn't save enough money for it? Her account was overdrawn because she bought her son $100 bicycle the day before.
Dh goes to the party. What does his wondering eyes see? . He noticed that the 4 year olds didn't eat much of the pizza. The kids would only take a bite or two of the pizza and they were done. There was a lot of pizza left over. The left over pizza is saved for her, her boyfriend and their kids to eat for later. Dh is a little upset but I tried to warn him and he didn't listen.
On Father's Day, she sent DH a text message telling him Happy Father's Day.
DH's Bd (not my child) is in a group home. I believe that she only calls DH to upset him. He is waiting on Father's Day for a call from her, she didn't call. Monday she called. She is crying and all upset. She has found out that she has to stay at this group home until there is an opening at another group home. She doesn't like this group home. They have rules and she doesn't do well with rules. Dh tries to calm her down. She then decides to tell dh that she is scared (she says this when she wants him to save her) another girl threatened to kill her. She also tells him a bunch of other things. SD lies so much it is hard to tell when she is telling the truth. I really do not believe a word that comes out of her mouth. After the call, DH is upset and he calls BM. BM basically told him that SD is lying. DH doesn't believe BM. DH can't seemed to concentrate on anything except SD is in danger. He will set by the phone every night for the rest of the week waiting for her to call. If she doesn't call, he will moan and groan assuming that SD has been murdered. SD NEVER tells DH Happy Father's Day.
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"Who in the H%$$ plans a
"Who in the H%$$ plans a birthday party and doesn't save enough money for it?"
That was my first thought. Entitled brats is who. I would never in my wildest dreams plan something I couldn't afford.
Honestly she probably only
Honestly she probably only did because she expected her DH to clean up her mess... UGH
Gads, Daizy, she sounds like
Gads, Daizy, she sounds like SD25, who is BioHo's daughter (my DH's SD).
DH has raised SD25 since she was a toddler. He has always been "Dad". In the past few years, the only times she calls him is when she wants something. Like when she called him Friday at 4am. She needed a ride home because she was DRUNK. Guessing baby daddy was home with there 2 kids... Anyhoo, DH missed the call. He works second shift and doesn't get to sleep until 1-2am, so he was obviously sleeping. *I* heard his phone ring, but wasn't about to wake him up (she's dead to me). DH didn't bother to return her drunken voicemail. Apparently, that ticked her off as she didn't bother to text or call him on Father's Day.
Wow, DH has had the same drunken call
She also called him to go out drinking with her. I say that it is, DH needs to buy her drinks.
It wouldn't really surprise me that DH didn't give her the money for her overdrawn checking account.
He will never here from her again until she needs something else.
DH needs to buy her drinks.
DH needs to buy her drinks.
I'm sure that if my DH went out drinking, she'd call him to go so he could pay! This isn't the first time she's called him, drunk, wanting a ride. SD has 2 children, but she and baby daddy NEED regular weekends away from their kids. Why have kids?? They drink Every.Single.Night.
Like your DH, my DH will be contacted by SD25 when she wants something. I would not be surprised if he doesn't hear from her again until Christmas...
I remember when DH and I were
I remember when DH and I were first together SS (mid 20s) and his GF would call and say they wanted to come over and watch a football game. No they wanted to come over for free beer. Didn't happen.
She played him for a sucker. And probably planned it.
These stunted children of divorce are raised to see men ( fathers, stepdads, bfs, and Hs) as a.t.m.s. They don't want a normal, loving, mutual relationship. They just want a financial resource that's there when they want to tap it.
I've shared before about the debacle I let OSD (a severe narcissist) suck us into. She asked me if she could host "a little birthday pool party for a few of stepgranddaughter's little friends " at our newly purchased home. I said of course. About a week before the party, OSD informed me via text she had invited 74 people! And a few days after that, she called moaning that she didn't have enough money to buy food for the party!. I will always regret not telling her to call it off, but I was still a doormat back then and DH didn't want to disappoint his little granddaughter. We ended up running to Costco and paying for everything, and even had to rent tables and chairs. OSD baked the cake, because she's MOTY. She basically had a huge bbq on our dime. The pile of loot, er, presents for one small child was disgusting. DH and I worked out butts off, only to have OSD come up to us at the end of the day asking for money to pay for the bounce house she'd rented. We'd already spent several hundred dollars on this farce! She burst into tears when I said NO.
Daizy, your H is a bit screwed up in the head - I think you know this. So it's important that you protect your money and not enable him in any way. These skids count on us never speaking up or calling them out on their cr@ppy behavior. Good manners work against us with this type of grifter. I hope that next time an opportunity presents, you'll speak up, directly and matter of factly, to HER. Let her know that you're on to her by sticking her with the dinner tab, or in whichever way you can at the time. I took great pleasure in witnessing the pi$$y look on OSD's face a few months later. The whole family got together (including her blended family of eight) to celebrate her birthday at a restaurant. When the bill came for our very large group, we asked to have it broken down into family groups. OSD had expected someone would pick up the tab for her ravenous horde, and they'd ordered quite a bit. She and her spineless H were still at the table trying to come up with payment when we left.
I agree
Wow, I just do not understand the nerve of asking you to pay for everything. I love the payback. I am sure she was very surprised.
I never see the SKIDS. They do not come to my house and I do not go to see them. I would love nothing more to see her face if DH would ever tell her NO.
We have separate bank accounts. I refuse to give him any money especially if he gives his money to an adult that is more than capable of planning ahead of time.
I am not even sure if he has enough money to last him until payday. I didn't ask. He has needs to learn to tell his kids NO.
Good. For. You. He needs to
Good. For. You. He needs to feel the consequences of his poor judgement.
He allowed this woman to manipulate him. His choice. And she repaid him on Father's Day by showing how much she cares about him, which is not at all.
Is your DH getting any therapy? He could really use it.
Dads day
OSD texted SO back when he asked for a "Fathers Day meetup", saying she already had plans to go to movies with friends, MAYBE after that. Then of course she got sick, suddenly. So we just spent fathers day with my parents and SO and Munchkin and my mom, then at home relaxing. SO got a card from YSD12.
Previous years, for Munchkins bday, there was always a pool party, complete with cake, little ceasars pizza, a pinata, my special Guacamole, and SO paid for everything, including snacks during sleepover night. THIS year, Munchkin got $100 cash to spend at Great America and whatever else, and she canceled her pool party. She had a fabulous time, and SO fulfilled his obligation without having to be involved with any coordination with HC GU BM. Easy peasy. That sucks that your DH did not heed your warnings, he needs to learn the hard way, I suppose.