When we have SS8 for the weekend, usually DH picks him up on Friday and then BM gets him from our house on Sunday around 11am - that's what they agreed on in the beginning of this arrangement. Many times and I mean almost every weekend we have him - BM wants to change something about it - as in she wants to bring him on Friday and DH take him home on Sunday or she cant' come at 11 - she'll be an hour or two late - sometimes more. DH always says 'ok' .. ONE TIME and I say ONE TIME we ask her to do one thing to make something suite on our end. We are in the process of becoming members at our church, which includes a membership class to make sure we understand everything etc before being accepted as members. They do these classes twice  a year and always on the first weekend of the month which is when we have SS8, so we've never been able to become members - we've been going to this church for 4 years. This time I told DH to ask BM if she can bring him up on Friday and DH can take him home on Sunday am by 8am - hour drive each way so he would be back by 9am if he dropped him by 8am. Just enough time to get to church for the class. These classes are from 9am to 2pm. No childcare provided. He very nicely asked her this last night - we found out yesterday this was the weekend classes are - I told him to ask now - a cpl weeks in advance so she can't say we didnt' give enough notice, and he worded it very nicely, I proof read it. She wrote back this morning. '' I've never heard of a church function that did not provide childcare''  I told DH to let it alone - she just wants to start a fight. She can change things all the time but one time in 8 years we want too? And she makes it a fight.

I'm so angry I'm shaking. Please dear God help me.