So I finally had the “talk” with my husband about my concerns after he asked me to watch his son while he went to work. He works over night so this job requires me to do the whole bed time routine. I explained to him how difficult it is watching my step son when I disagree with so many things he does based on the way he’s raised. Surely this came as a surprise to my husband and he went straight to making me feel guilty by saying “I thought you loved him like your own, etc”. I explained that I care for him but his behavior is completely out of control then went into specifics about how he lack of discipline causes certain actions (I’ve specified those in one of my other postings). Anyway, long story short, he was receptive and also had a long talk with his step son before leaving for work - telling him that a lot of things are going to change and no matter what, he needs to listen to me when his dad isn’t around. I truly appreciated how heavily he allowed my opinion and concerns to weigh in his decision making with raising his little boy. Throughout the night, he checked in constantly about his behavior and also made sure to ask me how everything went when he returned home. All in all, I’m SO happy I spoke up. It was initially uncomfortable as I could see the disapproval and shock on my husbands face, but it was so necessary! Hopefully things get better from now on. Thanks for the support and encouragement to talk to my hubby!