There's so much background to my story that I'll just have to post it in spurts I guess because I don't really know where to start. Anyways, I am 35, married 1 yr to my second husband, 38. We lived together for 1.5 yrs before marriage. I have a 12 yr old son who is an A student and wins school awards for his behavior. I have a 9 yr old step son who is causing me to rethink my life. He supposedly has ADHD but I wonder if it is really just the way he has been raised. He is so NOT thoughtful or considerate of the feelings of others. He will not sleep alone, so he sleeps with my husband when he is here, and I sleep in a kid's room. He eats nonstop and plays video games day and night. He still wants to hold hands and sit in his dad's lap and calls him dadddddyyyyyyy. It makes me want to puke. He is in 4th grade reading at a 2nd grade level. He is off his ADHD medicine. He trashes the house and pees on the toilet seat and leaves poop in the toilet. A trail of garbage follows him everywhere he goes. He has to be told by his dad about 5 times to do things. (I do not parent this kid nor concern myself with him any longer). Also, I tell my own son to do things 1 time. He knows if I say it again, there will be serious consequences, so he does what adults ask the first time.

I recently took a new job where I am gone most of the time. I no longer do his laundry, clean every day, do all the cooking etc.

I love my husband so much, but I am not sure I was thinking about the rest of my life when I committed myself to this. I just don't see this kid being a successful adult. Probably gonna be a thorn in my side forever.

There's so much more, but I will have to add it a little at a time.