When my kids got old enough to "forget" to bring me thier laundry on top of being lazy when they didn't properly put awat clean clothes and would just leave them on the floor then stuff them in their hamper when they had to clean their eooms I got sick if washing clean stuff and informed them I would no longer do their laundry. This started at about 8 yrs old for both my bois. I will remind them once on their day then it's on them. SO will do it and I've reminded him it's their responsibility not his. He is getting better but reminds them a lot. They are now 11and and 16 and so I got on them about taking advantage of SO if they don't do their laundry then they will be without clean clothes.

They make these awesome little packets for laundry detergent. Just pop one in & off you go. Think DH needs to teach these kids to do their own laundry.

sd20 always used to pull this shit of starting her laundry late at night and then expecting fdh to stay up and finish it so she would have clothes for school the next day. the idiot always did it, too. lazy little brats is all they are.

You created this monster. Lol. I did the same thing when I first got married to DH. Not with skid, but chores and such.

I sat DH down and told him that I just could not keep up. He was going to have to start helping around the house more and start washing his own clothes. Then show little miss 9 year old how to run the wash. If you do not want to do that, then keep washing and drying her clothes, BUT let her fold and hang them.

My DH was GREAT with this…I am not sure your DH will take it very good because he sounds like an ass. Sorry.

I agree with SMO2, if this is what works for you in your house then there's no need to change. If it's a well-known fact that because of your schedule you only do laundry on the weekends, then that's on everyone else if they can't get their stuff to you by Friday evening/Saturday morning.

I do the same thing -- if it's not in the dirty clothes hamper, it doesn't get washed. I'm not going to go looking for it, nor am I going to do special 1 or 2 item loads because someone "NEEDS" that pair of jeans washed.

If I were you, I'd reinforce the laundry boundary by making it very clear to everyone that YOU don't run the washer/dryer Monday - Thursday (or whatever days). The laundromat is only open Fri-Sun. If they want to do their stuff during the week, feel free. But you will not take responsibility for stuff left in the washer to get stale (ick), ruined clothes, etc.

Here's how I deal with the laundry at our house. SS20, does his own. By doing his own I mean he PAYS a laundromat to do it for him. FINE BY ME. I do mine, DHs and BS14. I tell BS to sort his laundry. I throw it all in the hallway in sorted piles, so he just has to add his to the piles. I usually do laundry on weekends. But if for some reason it gets late, anytime during the week, I'll toss in a load. I don't particularly enjoy doing laundry, but it's one of those mindless things I do between tv shows.
I have however been very tempted to let BS14 wear his stinky, dirty, wet, football uniform when I ask him to take out his uniform so I can throw it in the wash and he neglects to do it. Even DH was telling me NOT to wash it and that I should let him wear the stinky uniform to practice. I would, except I do pick ups and I'd probably throw up if I had to have him in my car smelling like death for 25 minutes. Sighs.... All kids are retarded.

You are going to have to slowly, but firmly pull out of this cycle. You have to do it, it is called self respect and it will only get worse and worse, and drain you dry.

Put your clothes at her door, in a basket.

Can you teach her how to do it herself? That would solve all of these issues.

In my house, you bring it down. Period. (I do laundry at least 3-4 times a week, if not daily.) I WILL NOT go looking fot it, collecting it, reminding you to get it, etc. The only place there's a laundry basket is in the laundry room. That's where it goes if you want it washed. Period.

And those are my bios.

I did all this too with no thanks from anyone. Like OP, all they had to do is carry their laundry basket to the laundry room. I guess it's too much for them because I only get the basket every 3 months and then have to spend 2 entire days doing it.

This summer I started to refuse to do it. I'm also hiring someone to come clean my house this week. I will no longer be their maid.

Oh yeah, and my youngest stepshit SS15 makes fun of everything I cook and then has a snide remark if I make ready made frozen meals. I told my H this weekend that he can stop an buy the ingrate, fat-ass fast food every night because I also will no longer be cooking for him.

I've been married 7 misery-filled years. The kids and ex-W treat me like shit and I'm done with all of it.

I've started counseling. Either things change or I'm out.

Oh I've had these battles too! I tend to do all the laundry in the house, for the most part. Why? Because it's one chore I sorta like. My ds13 does almost all his laundry himself. I've never particularly asked him to do, but taught him how to use the washer/dryer a couple of years ago and in the last year or so has just taken on that chore himself. Cool. My dd10 and dd14 primarily "let" me do their wash, although both are known to start loads of their own laundry. All the kids help fold especially during the week. I dont ever go looking in their rooms for laundry-they bring it to the laundry room and stick it in the dirty clothes basket-if they dont start it themselves.

Now, my ss14 was a different story. When he moved back in at teh end of February-I started out doing his laundry as well. However, I found myself having to go back to his room and fish his dirty clothes out of there. Well, I was ok with this for a while-he hadnt lived here full time in a couple years so maybe he didnt get the routine. So after a few weeks I told him that the dirty clothes needed to be brought to the laundry room-that I would willingly do his laundry-he just needs to bring it out-if there was something special he needed asap all he had to do was ask. Well, that was the kiss of death. SS does not like to ASK me for anything (he will accept things I do for him, but it's like beneath him or something to ask me for anything)nor does he, in general,like to follow any direction I may give him-even if it benefits himself. So he completely stopped bringing his clothes out at all. He has a bedwetting problem to boot-so there reached a point in which he literally had 5-6 wet blankets, probably 10-12 mildewy towels, and essentially the bulk of his wardrobe on his floor. He would grab a few outfits at a time, sneak into the laundry room and do those, and leave the rest of the crap to stink up the house. I finally took away at least half his wardrobe. Told him he couldnt have them back until he washed the sheets and blankets. He never did-after two months he never completed the task of washing all the blankets and towels-however when he moved out in June, he must have found where I stashed the clothes because they are now gone. It was a power struggle plain and simple. Doing as I asked would have benefited him and it's not like it was some complex task-he just got more of a kick out of being defiant then listening.

If I were you I wouldnt sweat it. Wash the clothes when you feel like it. Let them do without if they cant follow simple instructions.