Our DHs are the problem!!
Isn't it funny how most of us stepmoms dislike our skids because of the way they behave? Our DHs expect us to get along with their ill-behaved little brats yet, the reason they behave the way they do is because of our DHs!!
It's so disgusting. Ss4 (soon to be 5) acts like the Sultan of Brunei around here. He's either totally helpless and needs daaaadyyyy to do everything for him or he's the head honcho bossing DH around and making demands. DH pretends to have a backbone if I'm in the vicinity because he knows I'm not having it, but I know if I wasn't around he would be kowtowing to ss4's every whim. It makes me sick to my stomach. I wish someone would shake our DHs and tell them "the reason we don't like your little rats is because of YOU. You've allowed them to behave the way they do without any consequences and god forbid the evil sm step in and try to discipline."
Perhaps if our DHs demanded better behavior from their offspring us stepmoms might actually want to have a relationship with them...Just a thought...
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Yes - its all true what you
Yes - its all true what you say. But as NPD BM has the SKIDs 12 out of 14 days, their behaviour patterns tend to resemble hers in most ways - ie consistent with narcissistic personality disorder. Plus they have both been diagnosed with ADHD. Sultan of Brunei? yes, that sounds familiar. Have been trying to train DH out of treating the SDs to think they are potentates for the last 10 years, with limited success.
So true, so true. I
So true, so true. I absolutely can't even stand the sight of my SS10, he is the most risrepectful, manipulative little shit on the planet. My DH was never a father to him, when I met them they were "buddies" and he hates me for being a parent to him. I try to ignor him but just the sound of his voice is like nails on a chalkboard to me and it pushes me right over the edge. What pisses me off the most is my DH and the BM couldn't handle their crap like adults and now its my problem cause my SS10 is pissed off at the world! Omg SS10 is acting up, it must be because of his wicked stepmom... no its because everybody expected me be insta-mom and fix all your bullshit. Grow up and do your job right the first time. We are not these kids parents and they don't want us to be their parents they want their parents to be parents for gods sake!
I feel the same way about my
I feel the same way about my ss4, his mere presence makes my skin crawl and don't even get me started on the sound of his voice. BM assumes that every bad behavior ss has is because of their divorce. Really? You guys haven't been together for over half of his short life. Perhaps if the two of you believed in discipline he wouldn't behave the way he does
Yep
Yep
I feel like I could have
I feel like I could have written this!
I told DH this morning that no, I had no interest in spending time with him and his kids today (go carting, and going to some speedtrack thing tonight) because of their behavior. name calling, yelling at each other, fighting, bad mouthing their BM and her family, and objectifying women in the movies they are watching
agreed. fdh would let sd get
agreed. fdh would let sd get away with absolutely everything because "i don't want to listen to her bitch and whine" if he were to set down rules and give her consequences for breaking them. the result is that the bitch thinks she owns the world and everyone in it is here to serve her. good job, fdh. good f'g job, you lazy ahole.
DH just can't understand why
DH just can't understand why I don't like his precious prince and why I don't want to be around him. It's because DHs lack of discipline has created a kid that's not particularly enjoyable to be around. In addition to which, it is a HUGE turn off to watch a grown man crumble under the demands of a 4yo. Ugh!