More laziness!
When will these Skids get a clue? There will be no more free ride I tell you. Shit is going to hit the fan cuz I am tired of them being lazy, sitting at home doing nothing to find better jobs, or go to school, and expecting a free ride!
Last weekend, DH asked both Skids if they had done anything about college fall semester, both said "no but we will". I didn't say anything, I wanted to see how this would play out. DH drops subject, doesn't give them deadlines, suggestions, anything.
Fast forward to this weekend, one of our friends is going back to school and says most generals are full. I ask skids if they have registered for their classes and get a "no" answer from both of them. SS18 hasn't even finished his financial aide stuff.
So being the mean Stepmonster, I mean stepmom that I am...I put demands on the table. SS18 has Monday off, he needs to get his financial aid finished and register for classes. SD20 has Tuesday off, she needs to register for classes. She starts to whine that "she planned on going job hunting Tuesday". News to me, too bad, school is more important! Go job hunting on your other day off, Wednesday. And the pouting begins.
9:00am today, SS is still in bed. I knock on his door, tell him to get up/get showered/get over to the college to get his financial aid/classes figured out.
So frustrating! Tired of these adult children getting to sit around doing nothing, nothing expected of them, while their dad and I work our a$$es off to pay the bills. Told DH, come August if they're still playing this game, they will be told they're paying rent or moving out and living by their own rules in their own place. See how fast that changes their tune.
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I feel your pain. Although
I feel your pain. Although my ss is only 16, almost 17, he has no job. He has a car, which takes money for maintenance and gas. He likes to go out with friends. He has a girlfriend. He signed up to play football and soccer. He insists on playing goalie, which is a very expensive position. He played it last year but saw very little playing time since he was backup on the varsity team. He complained about that all season, so we told him to try out for a field position. He won't do that. On the football team he is the kicker. I over heard him telling my uncle recently that these are the "lazy" positions and then he laughed!! I don't think it's very funny!! I told DH that I'm not supporting that kind of attitude. DH said he didn't hear him say that. I'm sure he'll just forget about it. Be prepared though, when it comes time to spend hundreds of dollars on equipment, Ss better come up with some money because I'm not having us spend $120 on a pair of goalie gloves for him to sit the bench and be lazy!!!
He only puts in job apps when we force him too. He has signed up for some advanced placement classes for his senior year in HS. These classes come with summer work. I have to keep telling him to quit playing video games and do some of that work. The summer will be done and the work will not!!
Yesterday I thought I got through to him and he was going to do some of the school work but then I caught him playing games. He told me he already did some work. I asked him to show me and he had written about a paragraph for Spanish class. OMG!! This kid had better get a clue!! He wants to take on all of this stuff cause it sounds good but then he just expects everything to get done magically!
Also, we started visiting colleges and found out that there is a lot to be done by the end of this year as far as scholarships and/or financial aid, housing and admittance. He isn't proactive about any of it. I told him he's going to end up at junior college if this stuff doesn't get done on time. I got no response!!
After they get to a certain age, there is only so much you can do. Then they either need to step up or fail.
>>>After they get to a
>>>After they get to a certain age, there is only so much you can do. Then they either need to step up or fail.<<<
Agreed. I've told DH, he needs to stop feeling guilty for not being there as much when they were growing up, and man up. He's not doing them favors by letting them live off us. He needs to teach them about the real world and standing on their own 2 feet!
SD did get her classes registered but...4 out of 5 of her classes are online. Online classes are what killed her GPA last semester and got her kicked out of the University she was attending. Told her I didn't think it was a good idea, but as long as she moves out in August (with her BF) like planned, I don't care what she does honestly.
SS filled out his FAFSA stuff and is now saying he needs DH to get a transcript from the IRS for his 2011 taxes. Wah, guess you should have been getting this done months ago. What's the old saying... oh yeah..."lack of planning on your part does not make an emergency on mine"