Well, its my own fault. I will no longer give in to temptation with the texting snooping. I'm disengaged and not supposed to be doing this. Need to get back to that mode.

Its funny what SO says that BM texts and what she really texts.

SO conversation with me. BM texted me to ask how I have been feeling. I said fine. Then she asked how you were feeling. I interject "Tell her none of her business". He says "yeah I know". Didn't tell me he answered her. Then says I think she was trying to find an excuse to not let SS come but didn't want to tell him no and make herself look bad. So, I didn't give her a reason. SS is coming SD isn't. She got bad grades and I can't trust that I will not take my anger out on her inappropriately.

What was really said.

SO: Is SD coming over this weekend. SS says he wants to. SD says she has plans with friends though.
BM: Well, that's an issue now. She did make plans but now I'm keeping her home. Got her progress report and she got bad grades.
SO: WTF?
BM: I know, you don't need the added stress right now (referring to his newly diagnosed diabetes that she was told about via skids)
SO: No, My health is fine. Both my parents had diabetes and it was bound to happen. I'm getting it under control though. Nothign to worry about (i'm sure this was his intention to not give off any sense of weakness to BM, but still none of her business)
SO: What were the bad grades in?
BM: Chem and algrebra
SO: he goes on a small rant (again inappropriate) about SD being irresponsible and that he doesn't want her coming over because he will go off on her and can't control his emotions about this. She will have a hard life. He doesn't realize how much BM enjoys watching him get frustrated with SD and him venting to her about it.
BM: I know. You don't need the stress. (VOMIT)
BM: How are you feeling?
SO: no answer, just a question about a pick up detail for SS
BM: How is Helena.H feeling?
SO: She is fine.

Not sure where he got this whole "she wanted an excuse for SS not to come" I think he was padding that conversation to appease me.

Then there are texts scattered on other random days throughout the last month or two.

BM: "SD is in her interview and I'm outside waiting"
SO: at "fast food place"?
BM: Yes

Another day
"Her drivers test was a disaster", "FYI that boyfriend is history"
"Can I have those old home movies and video camera? You copied them for yourself right?" Those are his from my understanding. I think its interesting she wants some old home movies from when the kids were little and they were married.

Its not everyday and his responses are pretty short, but still. I probably don't have much to complain about. Its all mostly about the skids and he's usually short with her. They were on no speaking terms at all for the last year, this is why this is different for me. I don't want her to start her chatty kathy routine again with him calling or texting about nonsense.

The other thing that pisses me off though is that I'm supposed to be understanding of that part of his life. Like there is nothing he can do. Yet, last night I run in to old friends of my late husband. A guy my late husband went to HS with and his wife. We ran in to each other at the gym. Well, SO has made it very clear he wants no part of going to things I'm invited to or meeting friends that late husband and I had (the friends I met because he went to school with them). Makes things awkward sometimes.

Well, I chatted with them and SO was in the basketball gym. I guess he saw us talking. Well, we stopped chatting and they go on their way. SO comes out we are both ready to leave. He's all friendly and chipper with me. Then we go out to the parking lot and he says "who were you talking to". I said "Oh people late husband knew that we hung out with when we were together. He went to high school with guy and his wife was at community college with us" his response "oh"

After that he was withdrawn and not chatty at all. It took him a good hour and a half before he would really talk to me.
So I have to deal with his bitch ex, but I didn't even ask him to meet anyone and avoided putting him in an awkward situation and he pouts???

Really? Your exW just asked about my health and you are responding to her texts and I didn't pout at you!

*Formerly Alwaysanxious*