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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Tue, 06/26/2012 - 8:22am

Sorry this is a repost. I posted this yesterday thinking SO saw me on here so I took it off quickly. He didn't. Putting the two responses i got in the replies.

SO: I don't like SD hanging out with *lesbian friend of SD*
Me: I can handle the homosexuality but honestly, I don't think SD is gay. (SO knows I have no bias against
homosexuality. Only stupidity) Plus all her other friends are drinking and partying. I sure can handle that a lot better
than her drinking.
SO: Well, I'm realistic, all kids drink at some point. Delusion *he is saying this thinking she will not drink along
with her friends*
Me: Well, OUR SON will NOT be able to take that first drink without me knowing its going to happen and I WILL STOP it.
He'll have a problem if he has to deal with me on something like that.
SO: Well, it will be different with our son because he will live with both of us and we will be able to control him.
I have no control over SD, BM lets her do what she wants, and I have no say so. Delusion 2
I had to get on her though about her twitter because of her language and the topics she's tweeting about.
Me: oh, you mean that one with the drinking?
SO: at the same time, "smoking". Wait, what drinking tweet?
Me: the one where her friend she spent the night with tweeted a pic of some white trash sangrias and poorly sugared
rims that read "yaaaaaay SD"
SO: Silence.
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SO: I am worried about my daughter. I am hoping she will see when she hits 18 and graduates HS that she needs to get
her act together. I think that's what she will do.
Me: Maybe. Or she will decide she doesn't like school and want to do something that will require a 2 year degree or no
degree.
Delusion: she's going to college. She is going to eventually turn in to someone who is responsible and not
lazy. She will suddenly snap out of this "phase"
I'll be right. I just can't ever say so.

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Tue, 06/26/2012 - 8:23am

Submitted by DaizyDuke on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 10:23am.
Delusion: she's going to college. She is going to eventually turn in to someone who is responsible and not lazy. She
will suddenly snap out of this "phase"
Oh snap! Your DH thinks (like mine) that some fairy is going to come along when skids turn 18 and
sprinkle them with some magic fairy dust that is going to magically make them productive members to
society, that SD is going to go to college... on WHOSE dime??? Certainly not BMs and CERTAINLY not
ours! I think my DH has given up on the prospect of SS going to college since he just failed the 7th grade, his
prospects aren't looking too bright. But I don't know what in the world he thinks SS is going to do with himself when
he turns 18?
I refuse to have adult losers living with us. This is where my line in the sand is drawn. I have put up with alot of shit
over the years, but if DH thinks that he and BM can raise these losers and then they are going to live in MY home once
they graduate or drop out, he can think again. I will be gone in a New York minute. HE alone can support their lazy,
worthless butts and they can all live happily ever after with their losers selves.
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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Tue, 06/26/2012 - 8:24am

Submitted by attempting_to_m... on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 10:29am.
Wow, not only are our SDs similar, but, it seems like our SOs are delusional about their kids in similar
ways. My SO is also convinced that SD is going to wise up to the crap GUBM pulls and get tired of it,
choose to live with US, and make something of herself rather than be a worthless, lazy lay-about
mooching off of daddy for the rest of her life.
I just wonder if the entire delusion bubble has popped or if it is just slowly deflating like a flan in the cuppboard
because SD has made it very clear to him during this visit that she's A-OK with GUBM unless GUBM is treating her like
she's five and that she'd rather do nothing besides sit around and be waited on hand and foot.

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Submitted by just tired on Tue, 06/26/2012 - 10:05am

Apparently all DHs live in a world where the colors are really pretty, and everyone has unicorns & rainbows coming out of their asses.

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Submitted by luchay on Tue, 06/26/2012 - 8:41pm

Oh yeah, mine's there too.

Seriously thinks every time I get on him about teaching his kids responsibility and proper behaviour etc NOW while they are kids that "they are only kids, it's normal behaviour"

YES, but it is also behaviour that needs correcting WHILE they are kids!! No point waiting til they are 18 and magically expecting them to know all the stuff you never bothered to teach them "because they are just kids"

I actually sent him some info yesterday about how it is NOT a parents job to solve all their problems, but rather to give them the skills to solve their own problems. Small people - small problems but the skills need to be learnt young so that when they are big people they have resources and confidence etc, rather than waiting for Daddy to make it all right!