After the constant drama with SS15 and SD almost 18 on Friday, two weeks ago DH decided to finally give the kids what they want. To go back to their mom's. We've all had enough. It could very well be our fault they hate it here so much. They are all right, we are to blame for everything and everyone's problems.

But I know it didn't start this way. It's hard to believe it has come to this after so long. Only 3 years ago we were fighting a custody battle "in their best interest" and DH surprisingly WON. I have given so much to these kids and all I get in return is hate. And these days it is justified because I don't like them at all anymore. They are brats.

We never had a chance. Their mom ENJOYS that they hate us. It's what she wants. The kids and their MOM blame us for all of their problems. SD18 probably won't graduate. It's OUR fault she doesn't do her homework. She does NOTHING. Apparently if you don't provide a kid with enough "emotional support" they don't have to do their homework. This is what BM tells DH. Of course, it is no concern that SD goes out with her friends instead of doing homework, sits on facebook and texts all the time, but doesn't do her homework. We tried blocking some of those things in order to get her to do her homework, but BM said it was abuse to take away computer time and cell phone in order to do homework. She's flipping nuts.

I came home yesterday evening SD18 was downstairs in her room, the TV was on, computer was left on, lights left on, dishes left in the living room. I rarely talk to SD at all anymore. But I did this time. I texted if she was home. She said she was sleepling. I said "okay, how about you turn off the tv, computer, and take care of your dishes before you nap?" In response? She posts on her facebook that she can't wait to leave me behind. Her mom thought it was funny! I guess asking a near ADULT to pick up after themselves in unheard of in SD and BM fantasy land. I know I'm soooooo horrible.

SD18 regularly reports every.single.thing. we do in our home to BM. And it's often twisted and not the whole truth. So yeah, I'm bitter. They do need to go.

SS15 and DH were "having a conversation" last evening which led to SS15 screaming at DH which is all the kid ever does anymore. He knows everything. Doesn't do his homework at. all. anymore. And he's pissed because we won't give him his xbox back (christmas gift). He just thinks he should get it back without having to do anything. In his mind, he is moving in a couple weeks so why bother?

He was mad because DH won't let him go "stay over at a friends house" on Friday. Because we know how to get into his facebook and know this about SS attending a party and saying he is going to do ecstasy and get "shit faced" his words. So SS15 throws a screaming fit while DH tried to get him to stop yelling. Oh yeah...SS15 is ON PROBRATION for the next two months. And DH just caught him with a lighter in his pocket which is AGAINST his probation. I was locked in our bedroom (which I'm really sick and tired of having to do in my own damn home)...I finally walked out and had enough. I told SS15 to go to his room, that kind of yelling is not allowed, and he will not be getting his xbox at all for that kind of behavior. He will not get it. ever. I will donate it to a deserving kid that actually does something (any takers?).

He went to his room for the evening. Meanwhile, miss house monitor for BM is in the kitchen loving the conversation to tell her mother. I finally stood up for the bullshit they pull and I said...what you are just standing here to listen to their conversation so you can go tell your mommy? Not the best thing to do. But I have so had enough with this crap. Their mother has no CLUE what they are up to. SS15 is already facebooking people where mom lives to buy tobacco, that he's going to have parties at his mom's and she will join them (and she probably will!).

As a result of that comment, SD18 posts on facebook: "Bitch, really? My momma knows it sucks here. Bitch, really why do you think she want us out. why do you think we want out?"

Their mom thought this was funny! Many of her family and boyfriend clicked 'like'! While their mommy only pays $20 a month in child support. I provide their health and dental insurance. We do everything. She has done nothing the last 3 years.

I was so livid. I went right down to SD and told her I want her out asap and walked out. She turns 18 on Friday, invited 10 people for a sleepover BEFORE she even asked DH. It's not going happen. Not in my house. She can find alternative plans for her 18th birthday if she hates it here so much. I thought about leaving for that evening. But no, this is my house and I'm sick of their crap! She posts this crap from the CELL phone WE freaking provide!

I am so angry. I just want them to leave. They are the most ungrateful kids I have ever met. We never had a chance. Their mom is more consumed with enjoying how much they hate us than she is about her kids own behavior. She actually posted after the above episodes that "faith and patience have finally paid off and that her life is so blessed"...this is in reference to them hating us and how much they want to move in with the mom who had custody taken AWAY from her for good reason.

I'm seriously considering leaving until they are gone. I seriously can't handle this crap anymore. They are going to have these same problems at their mom's, but they all seem to think that they will magically do their home and graduate, yep, it will be all rainbows and fairy tales, skipping along hand in hand. SD18 one goal in adulthood right now? Is to move in with her mom. Not to graduate, not to start a life on her own, not to go to college, but only to move in with mom and start waitressing at the restaurant mommy works at. And mom loves that idea. Good luck.