I am worried sick. My husband and I have recently relocated from NY to warmer state. I had a lot of stress back in NY including job stress, we chucked it all and were lucky enough to find an afffordable place in our new state. The problem is that I have knownmy husband for 12 years, married for almost 5, not by any of his doing but he has an estranged relationship with his 23 year old son. He did not see him because of the mother, there were support issues as well though no fault of my husband that too with a 2 year court situation was taken care of. His son is married (separated now, again), has 2 children, 1 step child all under 5, left the military and now has decided he wants to live with us. He is rude, manipulative and disrespectful, the problem is my husband refuses to see this. Its like he knows but ignores it. Granted, he has always been very good to my family, he is godfather to one of my neices, but he brings this up whenever I mention his son, its like I cant say ANYTHING negative about him. He one time called out of the blue and said he needed 300 dollars, for what? I am still trying to find out, since I had the money, it had to come out of my account, there was another time we had plans (we live in a beach community) his son calls and boom, the plans change and we have to drive 1.5 hours just to take him to eat. All the vists with him are always bad, he is sullen and always has these snide remarks about his father or comments when we are together, I sm so sick of being the buffer and dealing with him. Basically, he is not a very nice youmg man. Now, since he got into a situation with his mom, he sent a text with sime stupid pretense so he could wind up living with us, well here is the rub, my hubby is on disability, I have not found a job yet, and he plans on quitting his job and "go to school" with money from the government..BS I say. In addition, we have a 700 sq. ft 1 bedroom apartment and a loveseat, when asked where is his stuff going to go, will he get storage, his anwer is "i dont know" when my husband asked too many questions he gets mad and says " if you dont want me to live there just say so" like a real brat. My fear is that if this happens my marriage is over, I came here to get rid of the stresses in my life, I am 51 years old, and my husband would definately be on his son's side rather than mine, which to some extent I understand. I just dont know what to do, He gets angry and pretty mucn told me as did most people, the kid comes first, trouble is, he is not a kid. he is 23 years old. Should I make some plans to move, should this happen because there is no way I will be able to live in this little apartment with this person, my marriage as I know it will be in serious jeppardy!