Permission to procreate from SD?? WTF??

On a roll...
Did a girls night/guys night out this weekend. My dad, DH, and my sons went out to a movie. I, SD23, SD19, DD11, and my mother went out to dinner with a little shopping first. (SD23 is from my first marriage; we are still very close.)

We chose a nice, expensive restaurant that we all enjoy.

During the conversation, kids came up. Babies, how cute, how many DH and I have separately, etc.

My mom asked if DH and I were thinking of having an "ours" baby. SD jumped in and stated that we would NOT have a baby. I was stunned. My mother looked at SD19 and said, "well, SD, I really don't think you get a say in the matter." SD got pissed and starting raising her voice saying that her father would NOT have more children and he was NOT to have a baby with me. I stuttered, SHOCKED, and told SD that her father's and my reproductive plans were none of her concern. She burst into tears and LEFT. Took off.

Apparently, she called BM hysterical on her cell and demanded she come pick her up because my mother and I were "being mean" to her.

Of course, BM calls DH and reams him a new one for allowing me to "harass" (no shit) his daughter.

Last time SD19 is invited to girls' night out, that's for damn sure!

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What a little bitch

What a little bitch :jawdrop:

Well stated. Given that she's

Well stated. Given that she's "of age," I'd like DH to just go to lunch with her to spend time with her.

I swear, she only comes for "visitation" to wreak havoc in my otherwise peaceful home. }:)

OMG!!!!!!

:jawdrop: OMG!!!!!!

Seriously your DH needs to

Seriously your DH needs to give that brat a kick in the groin.

Yeah, I would be limiting any contact with her and expect DH to have words with her pronto.

You WERE being mean to her.

You WERE being mean to her. Shame on you.

When she said that you would NOT have another baby, you should have agreed. After all, she's only 19. Why couldn't you just humor her? It's not like she's an adult.

Haha, at 19, I was living on

Haha, at 19, I was living on my own and completely self supporting. Damn, wish someone would've told me I was still a kid!

Oh my. You must have been so

Oh my. You must have been so neglected. Don't you know "self-supporting" is just another term for "latch-key kid"?

I suck at internet sarcasm

I suck at internet sarcasm lol

omg yes! I thought helenas

omg yes! I thought helenas post was a joke?! wtf. Good for you for sticking up for yourself, you weren't mean at all!

It was sarcasm...

Sounds like they've been

Sounds like they've been spoiled from infancy.

No way would I spend any time

No way would I spend any time with that child. Who the hell does she think she is? You guys decide if you want more kids. If you do, more power to you...Not me, I see light at the end of my tunnel.

Haha, that's me! I was a

Haha, that's me! I was a young parent and so was DH (he married BM because she was pregnant...never heard THAT one before, have you?)

When she made that comment, I thought about a baby for a nanosecond just to piss her off, but then I came to my senses.

My light is starting to get brighter, too.

lol the typical BS from

lol the typical BS from skids...seems it's what they want that should happen between adults...gotta freaking love it!

PS - I hope you no longer invite her ANYWHERE

OMG, REALLY?!? It's my

OMG, REALLY?!?

It's my mother's fault?? Bwahahaha!

I put responsibility where responsibility lies. A little snotty 19 year old is not going to tell me when I can and can't have babies.

BTW, SD had been participating in the discussion about babies... talking about how many, when, names, etc.
I honestly don't know who brought it up, but it wasn't me, because I have no intentions of starting over.

^^ THIS for sure ^^ I would

THIS for sure

I would never discuss having children in front of my husband's children. I would not even discuss it like that in front of my child. My mother would not do it either.

Yep another "blog" for the

Yep another "blog" for the benefit of not being uncovered as a troll. Didn't BlendedSHAM have some hilarious trumped up stories like this? "My SD took a penny that fell out of my purse." And so forth.

This sounds more like a mother/daughter struggle. And SD was just given adult spousal status which is pretty much normal for the way today's kids are free ranged.

I can hardly wait till the "3littlemonkeys" become TEENS!!

You should read... two of my

You should read... two of my monkeys ARE teens. The youngest is 11. The older son is in college.
Oh, AND I raised my older SD23, so I know all about the mother/daughter struggle.

sounds like sd19. she thought

sounds like sd19. she thought she had the right to lecture fdh and i when she was 16 because i was pregnant by him for the 2nd time (we have bs3)about how irresponsible we are, because we didn't think about her, and her need for a car and a college education. little bitch. she practically did backflips when i mc'd. now she's skipping pills hoping to get pregnant and has a pregnancy "scare" (hope) every few months. she's got another thing coming if she expects me to be there for her and to help her learn to be a mother and i'm pretty sure that's exactly what she expects.

that would be hard, one skid

that would be hard, one skid that you get along with and enjoy and the other a selfish bitch.

Yes, I raised one SD from age

Yes, I raised one SD from age 2, and I really think of her as my oldest child. I love her like I love my bios.

SD19... Grrr...she makes me think nasty thoughts.
AND she's the reason for 98% of my arguments with DH.

Oh my gosh!!! What a crazy

Oh my gosh!!! What a crazy thing for her to do/say!!! Wow. I cant believe she went bat shit crazy on you all like that!! Id be done with her for sure!! Just for giggles what did your DH say?

Grrrr... he wanted the dinner

Grrrr... he wanted the dinner to go nicely, everyone have fun, not to get bitched at by BM... yadda, yadda.
He just ranted. Nothing productive.

Oh dear we told my twin

Oh dear we told my twin skids when I was 5 months pregnant and they just kept saying how much they hated babies.. who hates babies anyway? Nasty little bitches. They still don't like/interact with my 19 month old daughter. Too bad for SD, it's not her business - it's for you and DH to decide on. Good luck!

While ops mom may not have

While ops mom may not have asked her the question about babies I don't think she meant any harm. It wasn;t like she thought "how can piss sd19 off?" I do think that sd should have kept her cool a lot better than she did. It is one thing to have the feels she has but another to throw a fit in a restaurant like she did. or to even think she had the right to tell her dad and sm weather they can have more babies or not. NOT her place and that should have been taught to her a LONG time ago.
She is an adult and should have behaved like one and know that sometimes others may say or do things that might be a little insensitive but it is the way we react to them that makes the difference.

I think she acted like a

I think she acted like a little shit too. My ss13 and I are not on good terms either (although trying to turn over a new leaf)but if someone asked me if dh and I ever planned on more kids-I would have a problem with him having a tantrum about it. He's certainly entitled to feel however he likes, as is your sd, but one thing we try to pound into his head is that just because he feels a certain way-does not mean he has to take any action on those feelings. In other words, sometimes you just need to keep your mouth shut as noone is interested in your feelings Something that evidently your sd has not learned. I am not sure if your mom is aware of your sd's childish behavior so maybe she really didnt think anything of the question?

You know, it may not have

You know, it may not have been the best discussion topic. It may be a topic that some people consider private, and might be better kept between the OP and her DH. Maybe her mom was putting her foot somewhere it didn't belong. Okay, all that is given.

But I'm sorry. The girl is 19. Since when is that an acceptable reaction to the possibility of ANYONE getting pregnant? You cannot tell someone that they CANNOT get pregnant, because you say so. Well, you could tell them that. But then they have the right to think you're acting like a crybaby moronicus. Really. Over-dramatic reaction = people see you as over-dramatic. 1 + 1 = 2. It's that simple.