Well since our weekend of pure hell with SD getting very sick and BM being a complete douche....Things have taken a turn for the better...

I'm not counting my chickens yet but for the past 3 days SD has been completely different. last night after dinner SD and I had a wonderful talk and she thanked me for taking such good care of her and hugged me....OK might not sound like a big deal but in the 5 years my DH and I have been together SD and I have never hugged (NEVER)...It was nice for a change. Also next week taking some time off to take the kids to the Science Museum. Sd16 told me she is looking forward to it. Since the weekend she has been kind of more attached to me than "daddy"...She helped me set the table last night and we talked while we did it, she helped me clean up and we talked some more and laughed even...Then we watched a movie all together even my BS14 watched with us which he hardly ever does espicially when SD is around. It was a really good valentines day I have to say. She was thinking about sleeping at BM's since she has been calling her cell and giving her shit for not going there lately. DH was like whatever you want....NO not whatever you want so I chimed in and said SD I really dont think it is a good idea you go to BM its just not good right now so why dont you go for dinner there and then around 8 we will pick you up to come home and we can do this until BM gets her life together...SD says thats sounds good SM I like that idea....DH told me later when SD was not around so glad you said that I didn't want her to go...WELL THEN BE A PARENT AND SAY IT...But no he doesnt want to be the bad guy but its ok for me to be and i wasn't...Its like this child just needs structure and even if she is 16 she wants a parent not just a friend....I have a feeling, for the first time, that things are looking better....I pray they do!!!!! Felt good though I have to say....But my eyes are still opened and just hope for the best guess thats all we can do....