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Submitted by oneoffour on Thu, 02/02/2012 - 7:47pm

If I didn't care for YSS so much I would be packing right now.

DH has been divorced from the Ice Maiden for 9 yrs and 11 months and 1 week. He initiated the divorce. He has been married to me for 8 yrs and 5 months and 3 weeks. But who si counting (apart from ME!)

Now YSS is over at his mothers place and manages to block up her antiquated garbage disposer with potato peelings. He tried to plunger the crap out and now the thing is leaking. 3 guesses who has gone over there to try and fix it so YSS doesn't get nagged and screamed at by his mother? DH knows her house inside out because she 'inherited' it in their divorce because her boys 'needed stability'. He is a Mr Fixit goro and is my hero with a tool belt. However he is no longer HER fucking hero in a tool belt. ZHe is MINE. If it comes to me having to break shit around here to start keeping him home at night I will.

I am not going to pack although I am sorely tempted. My DDs couch is too small for me to sleep on at their place. But I will have another glass of wine or 3 and go to bed.

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Thu, 02/02/2012 - 8:48pm

I understand where he's coming from, but part of inheriting a house is inheriting the responsibility. Before DH lived with me, when something broke at my house, I either fixed it myself, asked my dad for advice, or called a professional. Those were my choices.

Next time she has a problem, maybe your DH could suggest a good handyman for her.

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Submitted by a-step-up on Thu, 02/02/2012 - 9:05pm

Ummm oh noooo!!!
I would have his ass sleeping on the sofa for sure!
My BM wouldn't stop to help me if she saw me on the side of the road bleeding to death, I'll be damned if my husband would go fix anything at her house!
I could understand DH wanting to keep his son from being bitched at. If BM is anything like my skids BM she would have yelled at SS until he couldn't take it anymore and called his dad. I feel sorry for the kid, but that is not DHs place to go to BMs to fix anything. It will only open a door to future request.

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Submitted by bestwife on Thu, 02/02/2012 - 9:23pm

I am dead serious here. DH knows FOR SURE that the locks would be changed and I would not answer the door if he left to do something like that.

This is my home. I told him when he moved in that if I decided that he had betrayed me that he could be locked out in his underwear and I would not answer the door. And I meant it.

I would implode if he jumped over to see her just to help her out. He stopped by to see her once after he moved here. He used to live several hundred miles away - she lives a mile from me and he had not seen her in about 5 years. I had a hissy fit.

So be it if I am a controlling bitch - I do control my own happiness. I do not have to put up with crap that makes me unhappy. Wish I had learned that earlier in life.

Let him know that this is NEVER to happen again. You cannot change what he did today - but he sure as hell can control what he does in the future.

Good lord is SS so fragile that he would break if she yelled at him? And if I were BM I'd be pissed as hell that he had been in the house with me not there. What was he thinking?