I have been telling DW that I think by Feb 1 SD21 should be able to move into her own place. Of course DW is fighting me on it because SD21 sold her car due to having a suspended license and having all of these traffic tickets to pay. Of course most of those tickets are for driving with no insurance, and driving with a suspended license. DW thinks we should wait until she has all of that stuff paid off. I told DW that SD21 has had the money to pay off ALL of her tickets from stripping, and she got $2600 cash when she sold her car. It's not our fault she is wasting away her money.

So of course we can't have a week go by without there being drama on my wife's side of the family or with her kids. We went to my mother-in-law's house for Thanksgiving. That evening I looked around and SD21 was gone. I asked where she was, and my wife said she left with her friend, leaving us with taking care of her 2 yr old. Wife ASSURED me that SD21 would be home when we got back. And of course she wasn't home when we got there, just like I knew she wouldn't be. SD21 then calls us around 10pm and lets us know that she and her friend decided to stand in line at a store for Black Friday, so I am instantly pissed. Once again our live revolves around what SD21 wants to do, and we are stuck with watching her kid.

Later that evening, we found out my wife's niece had a brother-in-law kill himself on Thanksgiving day. So SD21 goes down there on Friday and we watch her son. While she is down there, she gets ANOTHER ticket for driving with a suspended license. We knew she was going to work that night and she normally comes home around 3am. We were woken up around 7am by SD21's son knocking on our door and yelling "Grandma", which he does whenever SD21 isn't home. So I ask where SD21 is, and DW tells me that she agreed to watch her son while she went to Seattle, and will be back Saturday night. Oh and the reason why SD21 needed to go to Seattle? Since she has a marijuana card, she now wants to be a grower of weed to sell to other people with their medical marijuana card. (Rolling eyes) Of course this is all agreed to without consulting me. I retaliated by refusing to help out at all with the grandkid. Sure it may have been an asshole thing to do, but it was the only way I could get my DW to see that she needs to stop agreeing to watch the grandkid.

Does my SD21 come home Sat night? Of course not. My wife sent her a text saying she'd better be home first thing Sunday morning. What time does SD21 get home? Sunday at 4pm.
Wife has a talk with her, saying that things need to change, and from now on she will be responsible for getting a sitter for her son if she doesn't come home at night or she decides to take a trip for the weekend.

Monday night I drop SD21 off at work (the strip club). Instead of going in and starting their shift, SD21 and another stripper walk over to a bar and start drinking. After four drinks (she only weighs like 130 so she's drunk) they start walking back to the strip club. This woman drives up and tells them she just came from the strip club and it's really slow, and she'll buy them drinks. So the dumb asses get in the car with her and go back to the bar. Woman tells them to sit down at a table and she will order them drinks. Well 10 mins went by and no drinks. The woman had gone back to the car and drove off, of course with all their stuff...so they got robbed. Instead of coming home or calling the police, SD21 goes to the strippers place, where they get into an argument and start fighting. The neighbors call the police, and SD21 gets a ticket for criminal mischief (ANOTHER expensive ass ticket).
Not only that, when the woman took SD21's stuff, she had her house key and ID in her bag, so now the robber has our address and a key to our house, so we had to pay to have our locks rekeyed.

Last night DW and I are talking about all of this, and saying that SD21 no longer wants to strip and just wants a regular job. I say good, but she still has to move out by Feb 1. Wife gets mad and says there's no way she can afford to move out by then with all of her tickets, etc. I again reiterate that SD21 has made MORE than enough money to pay off all of her tickets and fines, and its her own fault she gets the tickets. DW then had the nerve to say that I am just a selfish person, that if they were my own kids I would be a lot more understanding. DW says that other people think I'm selfish too, and i just want all of her attention to myself.

Fuck those other people because they have NO idea what all I've had to go through and put up with regarding her kids. I guarantee you those people don't even know the HALF of what I've put up with because DW always sugarcoats stuff when her kids do wrong, ESPECIALLY SD21. Normally I have thick skin, but I am not gonna lie it really hurts my feelings that DW thinks I'm a selfish person, all because I don't want to coddle and baby her grown ass kids the way she does. It's funny because everybody I talk to wonders how I've put up with all the shit for as long as I have.