So we asked all the kids for christmas lists. SD comes last night with her's. Two pages, typed and printed with our first names on a note stapled to the top. As if she handed out many lists and needed to indicate who this list was for. ?????

It's not even the list itself that is bothering me. I did ask for one, I'd rather buy things they want than waste money on stuff they won't use. It's the tone and commentary that when along with it. It's written in conversational snipits. Telling us where we can buy this or that. what colors are acceptable. That this store is at 'this' mall. Like in my 42 years of life I havent' figured out how to shop !!!!

Really the items on her list are very acceptable and nothing out of line. It was just so condescending. I wish she would express herself face to face with things like she obviously is able to in writing. So it's not like 'she just doesn't know how'.

I think I did good. I read it, set it down and made no comment. I knew I needed a little time to process before I spoke with DH about it.

Now, a few hours later I can put it aside and move on. No mention of my feelings that the tone was disrespectful, no need for DH to be defensive. Maybe I am learning!