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OT-constant articles on impact of FATHERs, but little on mothers

herewegoagain's picture

Submitted by herewegoagain on Mon, 09/12/2011 - 2:09pm

I am trying to write about the importance of fathers in a child's life, but of course, I also want to see about mothers. Well, it seems that all over the internet you have this...

If dad isn't there or is a bad dad, the kid will
steal, cheat, lie, beat women, be promiscuous, blah, blah, blah...

yet, I have yet to find a single article saying...

if mom sucks, the kid will...

?, ?, ?

Nope...nothing. So, here we are with all these articles about the importance of fathers, everything a kid does negatively or not is related to FATHER's role in a child's life, yet for some reason, the courts 99% of the time award custody to the mothers. So, can someone tell me of an article they read that relates to "the importance of mothers" and THEIR role in how a kid turns out?

I have a feeling there is nothing, because God forbid that anyone blames mothers for messed up kids...but I am dying to read something about it.

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mlmt1128's picture

Submitted by mlmt1128 on Mon, 09/12/2011 - 2:24pm

Well, we have a completely detached bm. I can give you a list of my own if you'd like! I guess it is just popular to call dads dead beats. No one seems to vcare when the mother is a piece of crap who ruined her children.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Mon, 09/12/2011 - 2:24pm

I'm sorry, but I don't think it has one thing to do with gender.. mom, dad, aunt, uncle whatever. My mom and dad split when I was 2, I saw my dad EOWE for a year and then he moved to the other side of the country and I saw him like 2 times over the next 16 years. We didn't chat on the phone, didn't send love letter to each other, he paid CS and acknowledged my Birthday and Christmas every year and that was it. Do I hate him, no. Did I turn out to be a lazy, no good, welfare collecting bum, no. Did I ever feel "slighted" because I didn't have a "dad", no. As a matter of fact, now as an adult, I have a fine relationship with my dad, he still lives on the other side of the country and I only see him once every 5 years or so. We will shoot each other an email every once in a while and send BDay and Holiday wishes and that's fine. I don't need anymore than that.

I did see an Intervention episode on A&E about a girl who was a big time drug user and she blamed it all on her mother abandoning her, even though she had a father and family who jumped through hoops for her, gave her everything she wanted, did everything for her etc. Sometimes I think THAT is the bigger problem... but that's another story. Maybe you can google the show and find that episode for your research? I just saw it within the last year.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Mon, 09/12/2011 - 2:30pm

Daizy will check into that...

mlmt1128 - I agree

Basically my issue is that I can't find ANYTHING that negatively talks about the impact of a mother, actually, not even positively...it's all focused on "dad did this or that, he needs to do this or that...or kids will turn out blank"...

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 09/12/2011 - 2:43pm

Check out fathers' rights websites, and go to Dr. Richard Wrshak's website. They'll lead you to some good research on PASinator BMs and the impacts of the PAS they inflict on the stepkids. Maybe you could write an article saying how PAS usually comes from bitter BMs who cannot deal with their issues in ways that are healthy for their kids. Cite your research and personal experiences frequently, too. Best of luck Smile

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Mon, 09/12/2011 - 2:49pm

Thanks!

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Submitted by stormabruin on Mon, 09/12/2011 - 2:59pm

Parental Alienation Syndrome. Parental Alienation occurs when one parent alienates their child(ren) from the other parent, or other family members.