So, I have been gone for quite a while but this is really hitting home and am about to burst. So instead of posting it on fb, I'm posting here lol

You see, a good friend of ours adopted 3 children with his partner (yes, they are gay, it has nothing to do with that…). Anyway, eventually they split up and because the law only allowed ONE father named on the adoption, one guy kept one child and the other two. They are great parents in every way. The co-parent very well, etc. So what's the issue?

This person, who decided to keep the two children he adopted in his home actually told me that I was being very mean and unreasonable and just nasty in not wanting to share any of MY money with my husband which could possibly go to his daughter from a previous marriage. He told me that once I married him, that I needed to just accept this and stop being a witch about it (maybe in worse words than that). So, yes, he feels that there is nothing wrong with part of MY money being used as an inheritance for my husband's daughter, although I have a child with autism to take care of (our child) and our child has done without for many years because of crazy ex and CS, etc.

So what's the deal? Ah, yes, since HIS NAME is only on two of the birth certificates, he is leaving HIS inheritance ONLY to his two children by adoption. The third child, yes, the one he could not really legally adopt but calls him Daddy because as far as the kids understand, they were adopted by both of these guys at the same time, well, he gets NOTHING from HIS money…that's for HIS adopted children.

I almost freaking died when he said this. Of course, his parents were divorced and of course, he is angry that his father might not leave him anything because his father has been remarried for years and has children that are much younger than him.

So, there you go. Thought I'd share how biased society is against the 2nd wives, etc. when it comes to inheritance yet it seems perfectly ok for what he is doing. To me, SKID has TWO parents, I am not one of them. She should inherit from THEM, not anything from me at all. Yet, HIS 3 kids, 3 kids with ONLY two parents him and his ex, well, that's different. Go figure.

And yes, my blood has been boiling for a while and I am just trying to keep the peace and not tell him where to shove it right now.