So, SS turned 18 a month & 2 days ago. DH has talked to him a number of times about the importance of school & going to college. SS has talked to DH trying to figure out what his options would be available to finance a college eduacation once his Senior year (this year) was over. He's talked about joining the military. We've been trying desparately to get information on DH's family history, as it was suggested to us where if you are 10% American Indian you can get your education paid for. DH's great-grandmother was full-blooded American Indian, but we can't get our hands on anything to prove it. I have spent hours, days, & months looking for something so that DH's kids would be able to benefit from such an opportunity. Turns out my time & efforts have been for nothing. SS likely will not finish high school.

Yesterday was the first day of school for DH's kids. He called SS at 3:30pm to find out how school went. His reply was, "Well, I need to talk to you about that. They won't let me enroll for 12th grade". Wait...they won't LET him enroll??? Yeah.

BM has opted to have the kids homeschooled for the last 1 1/2 years & hid the fact from DH. SS finally told him this last summer. SD failed the first year of homeschool, so she's a year behind. SS was held back in KINDERGARTEN because BM couldn't pull her ass out of bed to get him up & ready to ride the bus. He missed too many days, so he's already a year back. It turns out that since the last school year ended, in June, BM hasn't been able to come up with $50 for him to take the test to progress from 11th grade to 12th. $50!!! Not one time did she ever mention it to DH that they needed help to pay it. They spent a week at the beach, she had birthday parties for both of them, & can manage to buy liquor for the son she's concerned has an alcohol problem, but can't come up with $50 to help her son get through high school???

We can pay the $50 to get him through, but he has to be willing to GO TO SCHOOL, & without her encouraging him it won't happen. I'm half tempted to make it conditional. If he wants to move in with us, we'll pay for the test. We'll take him to take the test so that we know for sure that it happened, & he can stay with us as long as he's in school.

This also creates a possible change in CS. Him being 18 & not enrolled in school, DH can go to court & have SS taken off CS. Of course, ideally, he'll get his ass an education & DH will continue to pay for the rest of the school year. DH did tell him yesterday, though, that if he doesn't go back, CS will be cut. SS was upset by it. His reply was, "Dad, we really need that money". DH said, "I'm sorry son. More than my money, you really need an education, & that needs to be a priority. It should be a priority for you & it should be a priority for your mother. It makes me angry that it takes the fear of losing money to make your education important enough, & it infurates me that your mother begged me for another chance to be a mother to her children, & she can't see beyond herself to give her children a chance in life. I cannot BEGIN to tell you how angry I am." DH stayed eerily calm through his statment & then told SS he couldn't talk about it anymore right then. He needed a break. I guess DH will talk to the lawyer sometime today & find out about dropping the CS on SS & DH will call SS back this afternoon. If they can't figure something out with school, I guess we'll just drop him off the CS & if they need the money bad enough, him & BM can double-team at McDonald's. It'll give him a jump on his career.

I never would have believed there was a mother out there so worthless. She'll go to her grave insisting that somehow this is all DH's fault...piece of shit.