This is a messed up situation that we got put in this weekend. I kind of saw it coming and I warned BF that BM was starting to think that they were friends again (some one that she could count on). Also I would like input in what we should do next. Skip to the bottom if you don't want to read this long post.

It started last week when we dropped the boys off. SS4 had been sick all weekend. So Monday she txt BF to say that SS4 had a fever of 101 and she was staying home with him. Tuesday we hadn't heard from her so BF txt BM to see how SS4 was. She responded with 'fine' but then called 5 minutes later to tell BF some lame story about something stupid that SS6 did. He defined 'inspire' or something like that. So BF was like let me talk to SS6. We talked to him and then SS4 then said bye to BM. I told BF that it was weird and she was starting to think they were friends - but it had been about the boys, all be it stupid.

Wednesday BM started txt BF about SS4 therapy stuff and was finally like do you just want me to print it and give it to you Sunday - BF was like 'yeah'. (this is were it gets odd) BM txt BF and asked about this infection that his dad had awhile back, BF starts to freak because of course he thinks she is talking about the kids. Turns out she was talking about her man having this infection and being really sick. She gave details but BF ignored her - since it wasn't about the kids any more.

Thursday BM calls and leaves a message saying that she found and after school program for SS6, and that SS6 really wants to do it because he has friend in there. - he's 6 he has friends every where. BF got mad because in February we signed SS6 up for karate (with her blessing) but she never takes him. The karate place also has an after school program and he has 'friends' in the class. But they don't have class on Friday but we signed a one year commitment. So He called her and she got kind of snippy when he told her that if that is what she wanted to do on her weeks it was fine but on our weeks he was going to karate. He added that we were not going pay for it to which she added that was fine we could pay for karate then. To which I chimed in SOLD. Since karate is 60 bucks a month and the thing she wants is like 70 bucks a WEEK! She was worried about confusing the school/bus people but they can't be the only kids with joint custody.

Either Thursday or Friday she txt BF and asked him what he wanted for his birthday - to which BF said NOTHING - a few times. His birthday was this weekend.

Friday BM calls BF and says that she needs a favor. She said that her man was in the hospital with that infection and she needed someone to watch the kids Saturday while she dealt with it. To which BF replied "I am at the cottage." (His family's cottage on the lake about an hour away.) She hung up on him.

BF txt'ed her (cause cell signal sucks there) She says something about flipping out and that she would just call family (which you would think she would call them first but whatever) Then she asked him what he wanted to do and he said no it was her week and it was up to her. She is bad about pushing decisions off on him. We would have taken the boys in a heart beat but BM had to make up her mind first.

Saturday morning BF txt'ed her and she sent back this long txt about being at the hospital all night and blood clots and whatever other medical stuff she could think of. But she didn't know what they were going to do because the boys were going to her parents to the petting zoo that day. I told BF that as much as I don't want anything bad to happen to any one she should be telling you stuff about her man's medical problem. TMI. But he txt her back and told her that he needed to know something because 'we had plans through out the day'. It was after all his birthday and we had places to be at cretin times and she needed to give us an answer other than - 'I'll call you later' (which is what she told him).

She got mad and said she would drop them off Sunday at 5 (the normal time).

Today she dropped them off and didn't say a word. Of course she got BF a birthday present. A framed photo (montage) of the boys with some religious captions about being a dad. In the 'notebook' she put all the fun stuff they did this week including seeing her man in the hospital which was a lie - SS6 said they didn't go to the hospital and i believe him because SS4 is afraid of doctors. (screams) And we found out that BM does get info from the sitter - who we will no longer be using for that very reason.

But I feel like an ass for not helping her out but at the same time we don't know how sick her man really was - she's a drama queen. (b) i don't think she would have done it for us - not that we would ever ask her. (c) and I freaked out that she would share medical stuff on her man with BF. (d) she has no respect for our schedule. she couldn't make up her mind on times and places. The kids were going to a petting zoo it's not like that was something that couldn't be cut short to meet our needs.

And I am not hanging up the picture BF got for his birthday for 2 reasons - 1 it's not very good shots of the boys and 2 I am not religious and I think it's inappropriate to give people religious gifts. unless it's family and you know they are religious. And to add her birthday is next month but I am not giving her any pictures or poems - because I take all the pictures and she is evil to me so why should I share? We are giving SS6 $10 bucks and turning him lose in walmart. I hope she likes legos.

So were we wrong to not help indecisive BM?

Is there a nice way to tell her that she was inappropriate with the TMI on the medical issues of her man with out sounding heartless? I mean we didn't want him to die or anything but a simple , he's sick would have done.