Hi,

I do feel your pain, and I am so sorry. I work 4 jobs (no joke) which ends up being 7 days a week and very long days. We used to pay 2 child support checks, but after winning custody we only pay 1 but we are still broke. The SD who lives with us demands high quality everything, eating out all the time, and driving everywhere. Narcissism they call it, Hell I call it. If she was even somewhat greatful, I would be less bitter-I'm so mad I can spit nails. I'm at my wits end, and her behavior is just awful on a normal day and reprehensible on a less than normal day.

Venting is very necessary-it keeps us from exploding. I hope you have a good day at work.

klc1977 - hang in there. I just found this site today as well! Thank goodness - sometimes just typing out the things that cause pain give a little relief! Your not alone out there - keep your chin up and do something good for yourself even if its is just 5 minutes.

Good luck Girl! I'm in that boat with you and I know seeing non-working BM driving a brand new car and finding out that she just got a brand new home, all while I kill myself with no vacation and no honeymoon because I had "sell back" my vaction time to the company to pay the bills...because...as DH says NO, I don't support his Ex-wife and his kids...I support him (and our BS) so that he can support them.

Take Care and I hope you find sometime for yourself soon!

I work for myself and have to work 2 jobs. Out of 3 BMs only one works and doesn't even work a 40 hour week because she has constant drama. Out of the 30-something hours she is supposed to work she misses an average of a day every 2 weeks. Constant drama. She has no concept of having to plan around 2 jobs, deadlines, etc. She collects state aid for SD4 and lives with her dad, and is constantly bugging DH for money. He makes less than enough to pay his way. I make great money but refuse to enable him to give er money because she has plenty of money to play. She goes out with friends and her sister, has ATVs and goes on vacations. Then turns around after taking time off and complains about being broke. Very frustrating.

I feel your pain, ladies!

I work for myself and have to work 2 jobs. Out of 3 BMs only one works and doesn't even work a 40 hour week because she has constant drama. Out of the 30-something hours she is supposed to work she misses an average of a day every 2 weeks. Constant drama. She has no concept of having to plan around 2 jobs, deadlines, etc. She collects state aid for SD4 and lives with her dad, and is constantly bugging DH for money. He makes less than enough to pay his way. I make great money but refuse to enable him to give er money because she has plenty of money to play. She goes out with friends and her sister, has ATVs and goes on vacations. Then turns around after taking time off and complains about being broke. Very frustrating.

I feel your pain, ladies!

Why are you working 2 jobs and not your husband? He and his children are the reason you are tight on money after all, aren't they?? I couldn't imagine my husband having to pay child support. Thankfully their agreement states no support on either side, joint custody (for now) If we ever had to pay CS I would just die. I would be so resentful and bitter knowing that BM was benefiting from my hard earned money when she sits on her ass and collects from the government. I am sorry you have to work so hard to support BMs vacation!!!

:sick: After reading everyone's post, I feel sick. I am in the same boat. I am with a man who has been married four times. He already told me he will never marry me. Said he isn't good at being married. However, he expects me to be a "wife" to him. He pays forty percent of his pay to CS because he has two kids with two different BM. He said he cannot work a 2nd job because his BM's would just take him back for more support. I am a Nurse and work 50-60 hours per week. I make great money but am always broke. Whenever, his kids come over, I have to pay for everything for them. He only pays half the mtg. and his truck payment. I pay for everything else. I mean everything. I have been with him for three years. I want to leave him, but he begs me not to pick money over him. He said everyone always leaves him. I feel guilty, but no one understands why. He tells people he bought me a motorcycle. I thought he did too, until he handed me the payment booklet. I knew he couldn't afford it. He said he had it, no problem. He was getting an increase in pay soon. Well, EX#3 took him to court and increased her support by almost $300 per month. So there is the motorcycle payment. I need to go but I do not know how. I am smart and stupid all at the same time. Help in Texas.