First let me start by saying that dh is constanty upset at me because I don't treat ss 'as my own'. Sorry, but when a kid doesn't want anything to do with my family, didn't visit his own dad for 3 years...it's kinda hard to treat him as my own. Maybe if I didn't have my own bios or ss didn't have a mom or ss always visited...maybe. Anyway, dh always says dice I married him I should treat ss like he was mine. Also, s/n...sil is engaged to a man with twin preteen girls. They are really good with our kids and I kinda like them- because thy aren't mine! However, those girls are wild! I can see sil having problems with them now and way more in the future. Dh can't stand his future step-nieces.

So, we were having a conversation the other day about them. I tell him that they will soon be his 'nieces' , not step-nieces and that he should love them like they were his 'real' nieces.
Dh- well you don't treat ss like he's yours
Me- exactly. You want me to treat him like he's mine but you aren't willing to treat the girls like they are your nieces/family.
Dh- that's because I have no blood line with them. And you have a bloodlines with ss.
Me- no I don't.
Dh- I have a blood line with ss, when you married me our blood line combined when we had kids, so therefore you have a blood line with ss, too. Those girls are not my blood.
Me- (trying not to crack up laughing!!!) first of all thy is retarded. I have no blood line wih ss. Secondly, based on your logic, your sister and girls dad will 'combine' bloodlines when they gt married or have kids and since you & your sister DO have a bloodline, then those girls WILL have a bloodline to you!

He changed the subject immediately and I tried hard to hold in my laughter! His 'logic' makes no sense, but I he really believes that then at least now I understand him a little more. Now that his sister is entering the land of steps, dh is getting very double-standard in his thinking. I'm hoping one day he'll understand my view when his sis starts complaining about he same things I do!