So dh picks up ss to tomorrow (sat) and he'll stay a week. Sun, the bios & I go visit my mom for 3 days. Now when I usually go out of town I clean my house so I can return to a clean house. Nothing worse than coming home having to unpack AND clean. This time, however, ss13 will be alone in our house for 3 days while dh works all day. (dh was supposed to have off while i was gone but had to give up he days.) In the past, ss has stayed alone in our home twice. Once for a day and I returned to a normal house. Another time he stayed with bil who is only a year older than ss. That was for a few days and I returned to a trashed out house.

So this time I am thinking about telling ss that he is responsible for keeping the house clean and if it isn't then he and he alone will clean the whole house when I come back. I told dh this and he was like 'whatever'. I told dh i meant it and if he didn't want golden child to clean then dh should do it. Is this harsh? The way I see it, I don't care who keeps it clean as long as when I come back it is clean. If dh doesn't keep it clean then he apparently doesn't care if ss has to do it all himself, right? Our house isn't big so as long as he stays out of bios rooms, ss only has to worry about keeping kitchen and living room picked up. Shouldn't be too hard, right?