For all of you that think it is ok to keep moving the kids, I really feel sorry for you. My first priority is the my kids. Bio or step and yes things would be better at our house. My own son had the same learning problem as mr SS11 and with hard work he is now making A's and B's. My SS12 came home with bruses on his arms from his SF picking him up and slamming him on his bed hard enough to break it. We filed a police report and the mom told the police that she did it. They are left alone for hours after school. I have watched my SS11 for years hide under the kitchen table and cry when she gets here. I have to pull his hands apart and make him leave. Sometimes its not about the money. Money isn't everything. Its about being a family. I have tried to talk to her several time and ask for her to let us know when things are going on at the school like pictures or events and everytime nothing. When they were in school that were close enough I could drive there and order my own pictures but an hour and a half is too far to drive one way when I have to still take care of my own kids. They have wear clothes with holes and that are too small for them. She has called when they got in trouble for stealing and when they got caught setting things on fire at her house. Yes on fire. Their SF taught them how to use a lighter. So yes in my heart they would do better in our home. Its not about the money. Its about family and we have tons of family around here that loves and supports them. Always to have their backs. She has done some pretty self serving things and she just dosent think of them first. Its pretty clear when they come to us and ask why they have to leave with tears. So yeas this is the place they need to be. The judge told her last time that it was not in the best interest of the childrento leave our county. So bring on the fight. It about their well being and their future.

When we filed the police report and they did their "investigation" they turned it to SRS and she lied. I couldn't believe it. It came down to he said she said. The police said that she has the right to punish them the way she sees fit and since my SS12 is a big kid she said that she had to use force. She has even threaten my SS12 with calling them police on him because she was trying to hit him with a belt and he ran outside and wouldn't come back in. She said that they would come take him away. Of course he was scared and with us being an hour away he didn't know what to do. When the BM was first dating her now husband he hit her in the face in the parking lot of Applebees because she huged my DH in front of him. Shortly after that they got married. She is not playing with a full deck. I have offered to pay for extra classes and religous classes for the skids and she always says no. It takes away from her time. All we want to do is help and we get shut out. Each time she moves seems like things get worse and she wants us out of the picture. Always takes us back to court for more money though. The child support doesn't bother me if she would just use it for the kids. We just got two collection letters yesterday from the skids school saying she hasn't paid the enrollment fees for this year yet and we are being turned to collection for it. We get calls everyday that lunch account are negative. I even put my own money on their account so they could have a hot lunch. I just don't get it. When my first husband & I split up he couldn't afford anything and I had the kids full time. I paid things for him to get back on his feet. I don't understand things. The kids are the most important above all and some people look at them like a paycheck.