This is getting ridiculous
We were supposed to head down to the city and spend Sunday with SS and his baby. Last Sunday, my husband became a dumbass and managed to get SS very angry and upset. My husband has apologised but SS never gives us any concession when it comes to forgiving us. He will hold anger against my husband (sometimes me) and his mother for a very long time. He sent ME a email cancelling Sunday's plans. He says he "needs some time away from certain people in his life". Now I will not be able to see my adorable granddaughter for who knows when. I am so angry at everyone. My husband AND SS.
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SS needs time.....DH was
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SS needs time.....DH was wrong...but he did step up and try to say he was sorry...SS needs to deal with this...Please dont let this no win situation get the best of you...YOU didnt do anything wrong and you surely cant fix it....Im so sorry you are stuck in the middle...Maybe send SS an email saying you understand his feelings but you are hurt by being punished for what DH did...maybe suggest that you can see Granddaughter soon without DH...SS seems to like and trust you Im sure ss isnt thinking that he is hurting you....
BTW: I would want to CLAW my DH's eyes out if I were you!!
I have not been in SS's life
I have not been in SS's life that long (the same as his father). It would be unfair to my husband to go without him, no matter how stupidly he acted. My husband misses his son, but I have no idea what is going on in the man's head.
I know what you mean. I would
I know what you mean. I would love to just go by myself and visit. But my husband did not choose to be a absentee father. The bitch ex-wife screwed up our lives. When we finally had enough money and we fought for custody, the court did not let SS come live with us. And SS wanted to come to us. And we even suspected ex-wife's bf at the time might have been physically abusing SS. But SS refused to talk to CPS and those morons did not "find" anything. Soon, SS blamed us for not fighting even though we did the best with what we had. We are not rich and were not able to afford a lawyer. But of course the ex-wife gets a free lawyer. SS cut off my husband completely for a few years. We only heard about him through friends who lived in the same area as SS. My husband would send cheques and SS would never deposit them or just return them. My husband expereienced a lot of stress and even started having heart problems. I cannot leave him and go. I would feel guilty. And I want to feel happy visiting SS and my granddaughter, not guilty. I know my husband would probably let me go but I know how hurt he will be.
Your DH seems to keep
Your DH seems to keep screwing up when it comes to his kid...even when things are already bad/strained?? IS he trying to sabotage the relationship or is he just a bad dad????
I don't get it, I'd be furious also!
My dumbass husband thought it
My dumbass husband thought it was better between them. And thought he would bond over their mutual dislike of his ex-wife. He is CLUELESS! He missed out on a lot of SS's life. And I know he misses him terribly. But I do not understand how he expects it to get better so soon. Does he not see the coldness from SS?
I don't understand why you
I don't understand why you are angry at your SS's reaction to your husband's deliberate negative action?
I am angry at this whole
I am angry at this whole thing. Them fighting is preventing me from seeing my granddaughter.
I see.
I see.
I agree with Yme...you can
I agree with Yme...you can have a relationship your your SS and your granddaughter independent of your DH if your SS is up to it. Explain to him that although you are married you are still independent people...that you understand his frustration with your DH but that you would still like to have a relationship with him and his child of your own. Maybe it will surprise him and he will give you a positive response. If not, dont take it personally as it is your DH's fault not yours and theres really nothing else you can do.
Give the Email a try
Give the Email a try atleast...SS sounds like he is really dealing with a lot...I can see why he is in pain...YOU may be the bridge to help SS and DH have a relationship...SS called YOU because "he had no one else" to tell about HIS success...RIGHT!?? Please dont discount the love and trust SS has for YOU....Be the bridge.....AND staple DH's lips together the NEXT time DH utters BM's name!!!!!! BM is no longer a part of DHs dealings with SS so he should NEVER EVER EVER mummer BM's name again........
Yes, I wrote an email to SS.
Yes, I wrote an email to SS. I asked him to call me if he wanted to talk. I told him I would love to hear from him. I sent it around 2 pm. He will probably see it tonight. I do not know if he will call me. I know he is busy today too. He set-up a play date for his daughter with a little boy in the building they live in. I wish I had a stapler last time. I get angry but I see my husband upset about it and I feel bad for him, but then I get angry again. Just feeling all over the place.