Yeah that sounds like a "knee jerk response" from DH. He totally wasn't analyzing the spiritual point of it but drawing on what he knows from previous experience.

Once again men feel compelled to come up with "pat answers" and "fix problems" when you're just asking for their input.

Girl I know.....Im 32 and have been married for two years It was bad enough that ex wife had 2 boys and named one of them after him...then I turn around and have two boys too! I was really hoping for a girl...I wanted boys, before i even met my hubby, but just wanted a girl to give him something that she didnt...anyway my hubby did the same thing eveytime I got excited about the baby moving, he was like yeah I know there is a baby in there! He was not a total jerk, but he was not excited like I was and it hurt. Then when the baby came out he was talking about "ooh he looks like ss when he was little"! WHAT are you kidding me???? WTF!

Then mil always calls my son by the youngest ss name then corrects herself which pisses me off! he is one now and you still dont know his freaking name yet

I went through that.. then I quit talking to DH about my pregnancy after he told SD she could help name MY 1st child.. I told them both that I'm the one who fills out the birth info at the hospital, so they only have say if I approve! And I told SD that her opinion had no bearing what so ever.. and if she wanted to name a baby.. then she needed to talk to BM, and have her go get knocked up by another guy.

Then after she was born, DH was comparing DD to SD. I told him that I don't appreciate my child being compared to SD.. they are two different babies, with two different mommas.. I went on to tell him that it seemed like he was living in the past.. and that it hurt that MY kid has to be just like hers in his eyes.. He knows how much I despise SD & his ex.. so that really shut him up

Oh I'm so sorry! I'm 38 weeks pregnant with my first child and was worried about the same things throughout this pregnancy.

In the very beginning he made a comment or two about his experience in the past, but has miraculously shut up about it and generally acts as if it's the first time for him too. Once in a while I'll hint a little and sort of ask what his experience was the first time around, but we're both very careful not to be completely open with it. Luckily SD was born so long ago, things have changed so much that he doesn't remember much or it's outdated. Plus he says his relationship with me is so different that he reacts completely differently. I consider myself lucky considering I am with a man who has been very free about saying he's "done it all before".

I hope your DH wises up! Enjoy your pregnancy! (as much as you can lol)

I so get your frustration. DH did this stupidness when we had our first baby. We're pregnant with our second and now, for the most part, he knows to keep his mouth shut.

These men are clueless about the feelings women have it seems and need to be trained. Seriously. If it bothers you a lot, tell him.

I've always wondered if I started talking about my ex-bfs penises and comparing etc. if DH would get the same kind of feeling I got when he talked about BM's pregnancies and Stepkids as babies... lol... but I have not had to resort to that... yet...

Elizabeth.....I'd been so mad with the husband allowing his daughter to name the baby. OMG....that was so unfair he pulled that stunt. Awful!!

But I wanted to share with you what my great grandmother use to do. Since my grandfather was born so late in life, she could have really been my great great grandmother. Anyways....she gave her chldren a first name. Then, when they turned 16, she let them choose their middle name. Everyone of my great aunts and uncles went by their middle names.

Possibly, you can allow your daughter to choose her name when she turns 16.

Sorry you had to go through that, but, you can change her name and I don't blame you if you do!