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Should we have joint guardianship?

Happymom3's picture

Submitted by Happymom3 on Wed, 03/09/2011 - 7:09pm

So BM thinks we don't need any paper work for SS10 to live with us? Councillor told us today though that technically can't sign any consent forms from school or have any say should anything medical happen to him? This greatly concerns me but BM is digging in saying it's not needed. Any thoughts?

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somerg's picture

Submitted by somerg on Wed, 03/09/2011 - 7:16pm

i would STRONGLY suggest making her sign something and having her get it notarized or get a written agreement to PROTECT urself. something that you can prove it was agreed. and make her sign over all release forms for docs. i would also strongly advise making her drop all child support as well (legally).....at the least have her get a petition siging over her custody rights and switch to "non custodial".

if she does not give up the cs with it all...she's not serious this will keep the kid from bouncing back and forth in a battle and "there's no going back" with it

somerg's picture

Submitted by somerg on Wed, 03/09/2011 - 7:18pm

maybe go even further, and tell her to hire the attorney have the petition drawn at her expense and send you the paper work exchanging all responsibility including the financial aspect..........that'll tell you if she's serious

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Submitted by Rags on Wed, 03/09/2011 - 7:22pm

Agree verbally, have her drop off the Skid, then file for immediate temporary custody followed by full legal and physical custody then nail her ass to the wall for CS.

IMHO of course.

If she drops off the kid and walks away and you are good with that I do not believe it is required that you have joint guardianship.

I am my sons StepDad and I have always signed school forms, taken him to the Doc, Dentist, etc... and never have had a bit of trouble being his parent with any office, school, doctor, hospital, air line, airport, TSA agent, etc, etc, etc.....

However, if you want to limit the drama that BH can cause then get the paperwork signed.

Best regards,

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Submitted by somerg on Wed, 03/09/2011 - 8:30pm

totally agreed AND not to mention she's trying to pick and choose which part of the agreement she wants and knows if new paperwork is not enforced she can "get him" for it later.

dont' do it unless she follows through with paperwork and since SHE is suggesting the change, SHE needs to pay for it

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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Thu, 03/10/2011 - 12:36am

At this point a notary is prob whats in your best interest, both time and money. It doesn't have to be anything lawyer drawn, esp if you think this is only temporary. A simpl.. As of this day, we agree that child will lives full time with parent and assume responsibilities of the custodial parent, whereas BM is resigned to the non-custodial role. Both sign- good to go.
Just to cover your own in case she does decide to file something. And if it starts looking lik the arrangement will be more permanent- then go through with the official paperwork to have it all transferred.