I just got on here so I feel like I need to give a summary of the BM and a little bit of back story. She and my DH finalized their divorce in April, 2010 after he caught her cheating on 2 separate occasions over 3 years apart. He tried to make it work the first time for the sake of the children but she gave him no choice. Through the help of mediation they finally settled on 50/50 custody and he pays CS ($276/month) and their health insurance. I know this doesn't seem like much but when you consider that she got the home with a mortgage of less than $700 a month (thanks to his money saving), the car with no payment, all the furniture and no credit card or attorney fees it's a little frustrating. In the divorce my DH "won" the mini-van that is upside down in it's loan, all their combined credit card debt, her attorney fees ($150/month), his own attorney fees that were $8,000+, and he had to find a home to rent (until she gets his name off what was their mortgage) which is much more than her mortgage in a much smaller house...it's a little frustrating to say the least. What makes it more frustrating is that she lost her job 4 months ago but because she has her mother's help she has still managed to buy a brand new 48" flat screen tv, buy the kids $50 Valentine's day gifts, continued to buy the children expensive brand name clothes, but wants to complain when the cost of gymnastics for SD9 goes up because she has worked hard and been promoted a level. Meanwhile we are scrimping and saving everywhere we can to pay all of our bills, feed and clothe the children, and eventually try to buy a home. We currently split all child care costs, all extracurricular activity costs, and all doctor visit costs. She constantly tries to get us to pay for half of other things that are not our responsibilities. Both children have their own clothes at each house and we try to keep the moving of things back and forth to a minimum. When winter came we bought each child a coat for our house. She went out and bought them each $50 coats and then had the audacity to ask for half the money after the fact. Thankfully my DH is a wonderful husband and father and explained to her that CS is for those kinds of expenses. She also tried to get us to pay for 1/2 the cost of the sneakers she bought SS5 even though he has his own at our house. All she thinks about is money and how she can get more from us. This is just the start of it but I don't really have time to go on right now. I will post more lately as I have been seriously aggravated with this woman!!!