XBF thought he was just the best! "I try to be a good dad." meaning, I am such a dad of the year, my kids adore me!
(And why wouldn't they? They OWN you, stupid!)
They have no respect for you or anything and you are their non-stop entertainment and fun, but you can't see that, because they loooooooove you, daaaaaaadyyyyyy. Keep funding, keep letting them get away with murder and keep making excuses. Keep letting them think they poop gold bullion.
I’m not so sure about my DH. Sometimes he really acts like he knows that SS has serious problems, then he forgets it the next day and acts like SS is the most perfect kid in the world. I assume he thinks SS is perfect because of him…?
WOW…I just had a thought! DH thinks BM is trash and a terrible mother, most of the time. DH was only an EOWE father up until last year. The next time DH starts talking about how great SS is, I am going to say….yes dear, I guess BM is not such a bad parent since she had him most of the time. Uuuuuuhhh that will tick him off!!
I already DID say that in an argument to DH.
"IF you think your ex-wife is such an awful parent, why the hell are you letting her raise the child then?"
He did not like that observation. If you are going to bitch over parenting, then be there to fix it. You can't parent via email and CPS.
My husband is a great father..like everyone else parenting is a tough job, you learn as you go...our biggest hurdle is the BM..she is unbelievable and makes everything so difficult...
So to answer your question yes I believe he is a great father..and I am a great SM...
Before the divorce, I would agree he was. I've even told him that his biggest mistake was letting BM have full custody of SD. (Not that we would ever have lived together and gotten married if he had her living with him...) Now SD is a monster because BM was not a good parent. After the divorce, DH really distanced himself a lot, and only involved himself when it was more convenient or fun for him, and while he doesn't admit it, I think that's why he did the guilty dad thing and shelled out tons of money, making the little monster that much worse. BM couldn't control SD and would always call DH to come and discipline SD, but how effective is that, showing up days after the fact to have a chat with the kid.
I love how you added the word " think " in this blog. That one word makes a crucial difference. Before I log off and wander into the world of SK visitation, I had to add my thoughts of course.
Does DH "think" that he is a good parent? Of course. Both of SD6's bioparents "think" they are.
IS DH a good parent in my opinion? NO. Neither is her BM.
Yes. Everyone has pounded it into his head that since he is a single father with primary custody of his children that he is the world's greatest father. He is good...but there is still room for improvement.
My DH thinks he is a good parent,but then,that said,he often feels like he has failed in some way by them being from a,'broken home'.I think DH has been a good parent in meeting their needs when they were younger,but,it's the guilty parenting that has done the damage in the long run.As adults,the guilt parenting has really started manifesting itself,in such a way,that it now has a negative effect on their own relationship,which then causes more 'guilty' parenting,because DH thinks 'he' is the one causing them further misery,it's an endless cycle....'sigh'
I think my So is a better parent than he thinks he is. He thinks he's a good parent, but not as good as he is. He is a much better parent than OneNighter (BM).
In the ways he's failed as a parent, only in the last year really trying to fully fight for SD5 and force BM to let him see her and be an actual parent to her and not a glorified babysitter. Before, he kind of let BM set the tone so he would see SD when it was convenient for OneNighter.
I think he still has areas he needs to grow in with regards to discipline. I think somethings he makes into more than they should be, though he always explains the reasons for a time-out and so on. Still, somethings he takes a little too seriously for the age of the girls (mine and his, both 5). Even with that, he's still a good dad. Hope one day he realizes just how good he is!
I dont know really if he thinks he is or not but in reality he is a very good parent. He is strict but not mean and he does a lot of fun things with kiddo, plays with him one on one, and will punish him if he misbehaves. Kiddo knows that there is a line he is not supposed to cross and knows when he is in trouble. Kiddo will actually start walking to his room the moment he says something out of line just from a look that dh gives him. The only things that arent absolutely stellar are that 9 times out of 10 DH cant say no to kiddo and spoils him rotten and he cant keep kiddo punished for long lol he's a sucker but it evens out. If I could only get DH to be as good a house-keeper-cleaner as he is a father I would be golden lol.
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XBF thought he was just the
XBF thought he was just the best! "I try to be a good dad." meaning, I am such a dad of the year, my kids adore me!
(And why wouldn't they? They OWN you, stupid!)
They have no respect for you or anything and you are their non-stop entertainment and fun, but you can't see that, because they loooooooove you, daaaaaaadyyyyyy. Keep funding, keep letting them get away with murder and keep making excuses. Keep letting them think they poop gold bullion.
Keep up the good work, honey!
I’m not so sure about my DH.
I’m not so sure about my DH. Sometimes he really acts like he knows that SS has serious problems, then he forgets it the next day and acts like SS is the most perfect kid in the world. I assume he thinks SS is perfect because of him…?
WOW…I just had a thought! DH thinks BM is trash and a terrible mother, most of the time. DH was only an EOWE father up until last year. The next time DH starts talking about how great SS is, I am going to say….yes dear, I guess BM is not such a bad parent since she had him most of the time. Uuuuuuhhh that will tick him off!!
Might not say that. lol
I already DID say that in an
I already DID say that in an argument to DH.
"IF you think your ex-wife is such an awful parent, why the hell are you letting her raise the child then?"
He did not like that observation. If you are going to bitch over parenting, then be there to fix it. You can't parent via email and CPS.
My husband is a great
My husband is a great father..like everyone else parenting is a tough job, you learn as you go...our biggest hurdle is the BM..she is unbelievable and makes everything so difficult...
So to answer your question yes I believe he is a great father..and I am a great SM...
YES!! Before the divorce, I
YES!!
Before the divorce, I would agree he was. I've even told him that his biggest mistake was letting BM have full custody of SD. (Not that we would ever have lived together and gotten married if he had her living with him...) Now SD is a monster because BM was not a good parent. After the divorce, DH really distanced himself a lot, and only involved himself when it was more convenient or fun for him, and while he doesn't admit it, I think that's why he did the guilty dad thing and shelled out tons of money, making the little monster that much worse. BM couldn't control SD and would always call DH to come and discipline SD, but how effective is that, showing up days after the fact to have a chat with the kid.
I love how you added the word
I love how you added the word " think " in this blog. That one word makes a crucial difference. Before I log off and wander into the world of SK visitation, I had to add my thoughts of course.
Does DH "think" that he is a good parent? Of course. Both of SD6's bioparents "think" they are.
IS DH a good parent in my opinion? NO. Neither is her BM.
Yes. Everyone has pounded it
Yes. Everyone has pounded it into his head that since he is a single father with primary custody of his children that he is the world's greatest father. He is good...but there is still room for improvement.
My DH thinks he is a good
My DH thinks he is a good parent,but then,that said,he often feels like he has failed in some way by them being from a,'broken home'.I think DH has been a good parent in meeting their needs when they were younger,but,it's the guilty parenting that has done the damage in the long run.As adults,the guilt parenting has really started manifesting itself,in such a way,that it now has a negative effect on their own relationship,which then causes more 'guilty' parenting,because DH thinks 'he' is the one causing them further misery,it's an endless cycle....'sigh'
I think my So is a better
I think my So is a better parent than he thinks he is. He thinks he's a good parent, but not as good as he is. He is a much better parent than OneNighter (BM).
In the ways he's failed as a parent, only in the last year really trying to fully fight for SD5 and force BM to let him see her and be an actual parent to her and not a glorified babysitter. Before, he kind of let BM set the tone so he would see SD when it was convenient for OneNighter.
I think he still has areas he needs to grow in with regards to discipline. I think somethings he makes into more than they should be, though he always explains the reasons for a time-out and so on. Still, somethings he takes a little too seriously for the age of the girls (mine and his, both 5). Even with that, he's still a good dad. Hope one day he realizes just how good he is!
I dont know really if he
I dont know really if he thinks he is or not but in reality he is a very good parent. He is strict but not mean and he does a lot of fun things with kiddo, plays with him one on one, and will punish him if he misbehaves. Kiddo knows that there is a line he is not supposed to cross and knows when he is in trouble. Kiddo will actually start walking to his room the moment he says something out of line just from a look that dh gives him. The only things that arent absolutely stellar are that 9 times out of 10 DH cant say no to kiddo and spoils him rotten and he cant keep kiddo punished for long lol he's a sucker but it evens out. If I could only get DH to be as good a house-keeper-cleaner as he is a father I would be golden lol.