DH called ss22 tonight because he had some mail here. It's a paper he has to fill out because he doesn't have liability insurance. I could hear ss yelling at dh on the phone all dh said was, "you wanna shut up so I can explain this to you for once in your life?" He goes on to tell ss that he HAS to fill this form out or else they will revoke the registration for his car. SS argued about it with dh. True to form.

So anyway... dh gets off the phone and said that ss said he was going to come and get this letter. I said, "Good... then when he comes he can get his crap out of my room." DH gets crappy with me and says, "He can't get his sh**!! He doesn't have anywhere to put it!" I said, "then I guess I will pack it up myself." DH just huffed and walked away. He said something else about the letter as he walked away and I said, "Well, if you would quit enabling him and let him deal with his own crap, he will eventually fall flat on his face and THEN he will learn. But I guess YOU will have to learn the hard way, too." DH says, "I DON'T ENABLE HIM!" I said, "ok dear... make sure he leaves my house key when he comes to get this letter." Not a word after that.

Story of the last 11 years of my life. SS does stupid crap to cause all kinds of problems for himself and dh has SOME excuse. SD pitches her baby fits and cops her attitude and dh has SOME excuse.

Being disengaged sure makes this easier to deal with, doesn't it??? LOL