I need to vent since I have no one to talk to, but here we go. About 9 yrs ago, I met this really great man who had 3 young children at the time, I myself was living alone and just got a divorce. I had 2 young children myself from previous marriage.. Me and this man fell in love and in no time after a yr of dating he had asked me to move in with him in HIS home. I wasn't quite ready for this but I took that leap. Anyways, It was difficult then because we were blending a family together and boy was it hard.. Through the past 9 yrs, the only child of his who ever gave me trouble or misery was his daughter, now 19... His Son (Jake) now 23 and Son (Marc) now 21 are great respectful young men to me.. Its only her.. She is arrigant even before she left here 3 yrs ago to live with my bf's brother all she would do is get up in the morning and flop her body back down on the sofa until 4pm, then get up take a shower, dont offer to help out with chores. If I would say something nice to her she would always flare up and my bf used to say, ( when i see your children do chores, then I will make mine do them),, this is was so unfair how he made her win at that time. To make a long story short, she is the kind of girl that will actually try to fight an adult, acts tough and wants to win her point.. Every birthday She has had, I alway bought her a cake, decorated the house or even just bought her things out of the clear blue, because knowing I loved her father, I treated her as one of my own. So I always was fair with all of the kids.. Any birthday I have ever had, she never said, Happy Birthday or shared it with me,, I think she feels very resentful of me, maby she thinks back then after her dad and mom split up a yr prior to me and her dad getting together she didnt like that, who knows, but I will tell ya what? I don't know what to do anymore with her,, her and I aren't talking over something so stupid. I know for a fact, that deep down inside she has something against me, and as many times I tried to talk to her, she would say, she has nothing against me,, dont know if its jealousy,, maby the way I love my kids and her mom wasn't around much,, she loves her mother so much, but yet I cant understand, why the children always love the absent parent more than the ones who give all their honest good time to them.. I dont know what to do,, I tell her I love her no matter how she feels about me, She just won't talk to me.. Please help. Thank you