Been relativley good w/disengaging, which is difficult when DH is the PC, so SD17 lives w/us 90% of time. But last night, just lost it. SD went to talk to boss because DH had told her several times that she COULD NOT work over Labor Day weekend, as we go camping every year at this time as a family, and there was NO WAY we would let her stay at home by herself. SD obviously was hoping DH would change his mind because she didn't tell boss and was scheduled. DH had her go up to talk to boss last night to explain. SD has been arguing at DH for past 2 days now about it, saying it will be his fault if she gets fired, etc... which of course it wouldn't be.

DH was out of house when SD returned, she looked at our posted calendar in the kitchen, and starts yelling how she cannot go to her counseling session b/c she HAS to work, it is the only day she can work now. I then proceeded to get on her about just the counseling, that she needs to stop whining and complaining and come up with a solution to her problem (as a soon to be adult) rather than being ugly about it. Well she starts going off about how she is being forced to go camping by us, etc... All I was talking about was her counseling on another day and how to be mature about it to figure out the problem, etc... SHe proceeds to get all upset, yelling and screaming at the top of her lungs (thanks BM for teaching her that), saying she disowned her dad last March (obviously, since she continues to ask dad for things, relies on him to do this and that, complains to him about BM when mad at her), and on and on. I finally just said in a calm voice, "SD, I was just trying to help you act like the adult you so want to be to figure out your scheduling problem, but you have to turn it into this whole dramatic scene. You claim you hate drama, but EVERYTHING turns into a big dramatic production for you." and left.

Teenagers really do work hard to turn things around and get you off the topic---she had no desire to even figure out her problem just still stewing about the weekend that she messed up. She claims she will make our weekend miserable, which is always so funny, because she always has fun in the end, and we just ignore her when she is being ugly and nasty and will show that we can have a good time no matter what she does. Our time and fun is in no relation to her.