:jawdrop: My bf's son is the same way! Very overweight and a fast food junkie, courtesy of his mother. OMG, what is her problem? Doesn't she realize fast food is BAD? Guess not, but when this kid has to have a cardiac cath at the ripe old age of 10, she'll wonder what happened.

I wouldn't have forced him to eat all of the food if he was obviously full and had given a good effort to try to eat. Sometimes, in restaurants, they put way too much food on a kids plate and its out of the question to ask them to eat it all, but I only put small amounts on his plate and I've seen this kid eat 2 whole Big Mac's, so I knew one scrambled egg and a half of an apple wouldn't kill him. He's just not used to eating healthy food. He wanted greasy McDonald's for breakfast and that's just not an option at my home. The eggs were scrambled with organic fat free milk and I use Smart Balance oil with omega3. The apple was also organic. These kids are so unhealthy, they are always sick and missing school. If they would eat better, they would be more healthy.
It just ran right through me that he said he wanted it, I went to the trouble of preparing it and then he said he doesn't want it. I do my son the same way. If he says he wants something, I fix it and then he doesn't eat it, I get a little pissed. I don't have all day to stay in the kitchen.

That's a good suggestion. I know I wouldn't like to be outdone by someone else in regards to raising my son. Even though their biomom is basically a loser in my eyes, she's still their mother and i'm sure she'll have something to say about her son having manners taught to him or anything else I do. She has something to say to their father about everything. She once told him that if he couldn't see the kids without me, then don't come at all. Well...that didn't work out. We basically just laughed that off. I really think she feels threatened by my presence around her kids. She is a drug addict (pills) and has no control over her children and she knows this, but won't admit it.
We had the kids at a school carnival a few months ago and they apparently went back and told their mother what a good time they had. That's when she called to tell him she didn't want the kids around me. He told her it wasn't her decision and hung up. The 8 yr old little girl couldn't get enough of me. She is starved for attention and held my hand the whole day, dragging me from booth to booth to play games and whatever. I'm guessing the mom has been hard at work to make 8 yr old hate me because she has changed her attitude towards me. Now, she barely speaks to me when she used to sit on my lap and talk my head off.
We are hoping they will get older and open their eyes to their mother's ways. In the mean time, we just continue to be ourselves and tell them the truth about everything.

Lord I hope you're right. I have the mentality that if we provide a structured environment, they will be more comfortable with us instead of never knowing where they are going to be from one minute to the next like with their mother.
She also needs to teach them the value of a $ because the kids think they are entitled to EVERYTHING. They think we are going to buy them something every time we go somewhere. Its just not going to happen. My son doesn't even ask for things anymore because he knows that if he's going to get something, I'll get it for him. The only time he asks for things are his birthday and Christmas. And even then, he doesn't ask for much. His birthday is next month and he asked for an Ipod. I was fine with that, but after seeing how much they cost, I told him to think of other options, so we started looking at the Sony brand and he is fine with that. However, he was worried that I wouldn't be able to get it for him since its about $100. He came up with a brilliant plan to save his birthday money and if he didn't get enough, I would make up the difference and get it for him. My bf's kids would never think of that. All they care about it what they're going to get and how they're going to get it.
If they throw a big enough fit (and I do mean FIT) or whine enough for something, it doesn't matter what it is, she'll get it for them. 6 yr old boy threw a fit in the driveway a month or so ago when we were picking him up. He grit his teeth, balled his fists up and let out a scream that could shatter glass until his mother gave into him. We didn't know what the hell was going on because we were in the car waiting on him, the girls were already in the car. Biomom came over to the car and said "If I give you $30 will you go get these wrestling gloves that he's been wanting over at WalMart? He's been throwing fits over this for days now." And my bf said "yes". I looked at him like "what did you just say?" But I didn't say anything because they're not my kids and its not really my place to discipline them, but after I saw this episode, I thought I might have to jump in and save the day somehow. When we got over to WalMart, I could sense my bf knew something was on my mind because I hadn't said anything since the fit. As soon as we walked in the door he said "Can you believe I agreed to do this?" I said "no" and then told him what I thought of the whole incident. He should have said "Hell no I'm not giving into him after the fit he just threw" and she would have walked off and made him look like the bad guy, but who cares. At least he's not the one giving in.

OMG! :jawdrop: We are hoping something happens soon for fear of her ruining the children. She is just a horrible mother and tries to make things better by buying the kids things. I gave her the benefit of the doubt at first, like not believing everything my bf had to say about her because there's always two sides to every story. But, I believe him now. She has proven herself to be what she is and we think its only a matter of time before she gets caught up in everything she does. (ie. embezzling money from the little league, drug usage, high credit card balances that she never pays on, etc...)