When the BM told us about the sexual abuse we suggested that the child come live with us where he would be watched over at all times. She actually contacted the authorities in the middle of the night because she was scared we would contact them first after arguing with my husband because he wasn't notified right away. She did not want to pay for after school care for her son so she allowed him to ride the school bus home with older children and play in their tree house until she got home from work. My SS told his mother about the sexual abuse and after she notified CPS they did an investigation and one counseling session with my SS. We do not know if she admitted her role in the incident by leaving a 6 year old boy with other children and no adult supervision.

We have been hoping that the BM will give in and listen to what her child is telling her, that he wants to live with his father.

Thank you very much for the great advice. I have been documenting everything for the past 2 years now, every shred of anything basically. BM says that CPS asked her to bring him to one counseling session down in FL and they had him draw pictures and questioned both of them. When I asked her if there was any follow-up she said that she "just wants him to forget all about it and if she keeps bringing it up and putting it in his head then he will never be able to forget it happened." I have taken pictures without him knowing of his very long fingernails and have also documented that he is sick every time we have him. The pinworms will not go away because she is too lazy to treat her house, although her house is not filthy by any means, I have saw pictures over the past few months. We noticed him scratching his butt while he was here for Spring Break a few months ago then we noticed the pinworms crawling out of his rectum. We treated him with the required medication and also sent it home to the BM because a repeat treatment is required in 2 weeks. 2 months later my SS comes back with pinworms and when we ask the BM about it she says she gave him the medicine but SS says she did not.

My SS begs us to stay here and makes wishes to never have to go back to FL to the BM house. I also have several videos of my SS on my cell phone, without him knowing he was being recorded, of him telling us about his BM and her boyfriend who is a police officer arguing and fighting about his BM talking to his dad or me.

Our only proof we have against the BM comes from the mouth of a 7 year old, will any of this hold up in court? My husband has heard so many stories about the court system failing the father and he is scared that our time with SS will be cut even shorter if the BM goes to court and denies all allegations and fools the judge and jury.

It is a battle worth fighting for sure but it seems like I am force feeding my husband to see the big picture. He feels like he won't win and it will make things worse on the child. He has heard numerous horror stories about unfit mothers winning custody every day because they clean up well and deny or make light of all allegations. Does my husband have the right to call the pediatrician in FL or CPS in FL that interviewed his son to get copies of all the documentation? If it were up to me we would have taken this to court several years ago when the BM took the child to another state without the father's knowledge. It is almost as if my husband thinks it will all just miraculously get better one day. I have thought long and hard about calling CPS in FL myself and having her investigated but I know that she will fool them into believing she is a good mother because she puts up a very good front.

No, we do not have any witnesses to testify against her. She moved with the child over 15 hours away from all family members in order to start a new life. Her main concern is not her son, instead she focuses all of her time and energy on her new boyfriend of less than one year that she has already moved in with. I feel like I am beating a dead horse when I talk with my husband about what needs to be done. I know that getting my SS out of that environment would totally benefit him and bring him out of his shell that he hides in. He has only been here for a few days to stay the entire summer and is already asking to stay here for good, he says he wants this to be his home. He told us that he does not eat breakfast in the morning before school at his mom's house because she spends all of her time in the shower and getting dressed then they have to leave so he is just hungry until lunch time at school. He also told us that at his mom's house he does not have to take a bath on the weekends. I have a book full of things like this he has told us. I will def try to make some phone calls and see if I have a leg to stand on, I don't think I will but it is atleast worth a shot.

Her only family consists of her mother and there is no communication there. We know the name of his afterschool program and also the name of his teacher from last school year. We have access to all of his grades online and he makes straight A's in school. I am going to print this blog out and let him read all of the suggestions from strangers that he needs to do something to protect his son. If it were my daughter, this blog would have never been found because I would have fought tooth and nail to protect her from the very start. It actually causes arguments between him and I when I voice my opinion and tell him that something needs to be done. Is there not a way for me to have this sexual abuse thing looked into further by someone at CPS in FL when my SS returns to her in August even if my husband won't do anything about it???

Thank You for understanding and all of your advice. I worry myself sick over this little boy that I didn't even give birth to and it seems as if his own BM could care less. As long as she gets the child support check every month she does not care if his clothes fit, she lets his lunch account go in the arrears for weeks before she will pay it, she tells my SS that if he stays with her most of the time she will take him to do fun stuff like amusements parks and such but he still says he wants to live here. I have a 9 year old daughter that is my top priority and I honestly feel uncomfortable about my SS7 being around her since he has been sexually abused and the proper treatment has not been given to him. If CPS were notified by her and my SS in fact was questioned, would they let it go without following up? My SS told us that he talked with some ladies at this place about it and drew some pictures for them about what the other child did to him. I don't understand why CPS would not make sure my SS was given the proper counseling or treatment.

I have never even spoken to my SS about it other than saying he could always talk to me about anything anytime he wanted to. His father had a long talk with him about what happened and that he did the right thing by telling and that he was not at fault. We are fully prepared for him to live with us, he has his own room in our house with his own clothes and toys. If the BM did not take him back to any appts with the counselor, would it not be the counselor's job to follow up on this child and the case? Do you think this is being brushed under the rug by the authorities where the BM lives because her live in boyfriend is a police officer in that area? If I called CPS on her would they not demand on speaking to my husband? I am not sure that I can convince him to call CPS, he barely can even talk to her about the allegations without it being a huge blowup.

Should I wait until he goes home at the end of the summer to call or should I call now while he is here with us? BM is already so paranoid that we are going to try and keep him from her.