Nah.......sometimes I put on pretty panties for no reason other than for me to know they are there! Of course, I'm a grown woman. I don't think it's that much of a issue, pretty things make a girl feel pretty!

In my case yes. Right when I started wearing "sexy" panties is right about when I became sexually active. My mom though maybe it was to fit in with the other girls at sleepovers and gym class, which I was happy to have her believe. I would keep an eye on her, but of course, it REALLY AND HONESTLY could be trying to keep up with friends. Like I said, I would just start keeping track of when she might be able to be "up to no good". Is it possible boys could be at the house when she's home alone, maybe at friends' homes, etc? If there really isn't any significant time where things might be happening, there is probably nothing to worry about.

Leo- I had this happen with SD over here, when she was about 12 or 13 as well. And let me tell you - I FLIPPED OUT.

At the time, SD lived 50/50 at each home. We had picked her up after school, and had run back into the house for something, and then we're all going to run right out again (DH, SD, and myself). Well, I was walking behind SD and saw something lacy hanging out from her VERY SHORT skirt. (You know the skirts that are everywhere now? The ones that barely cover the butt??? The ones I only let her wear now if she wears them with full on leggings underneath?!!)

So I say to SD... what do you have on?? And she shows me her thigh-high stockings with little bows and ribbons on the back of them. The ribbons were what was hanging out for all to see.

I flipped out!! I first made her tell me where she got them, because if it was BM, DH was going to give her an earful!!

And then I actually made SD cry, I yelled at her so bad about the message that she was sending to boys... and if she wanted to be known as a slut, then she is wearing the right clothing... and what the hell message does she think she is sending by wearing those clothes to school?.... I literally made the girl cry and was soo mad. DH was gentler, and just said that as a boy, he would think SD was "easy" if he saw that she was wearing that to school.

Don't get me wrong.. I am a full-on lingerie approved sexxy stockings, bra and underwear wearing / wanting woman. Just not at 13.

BM started buying SD matching bras and underwear right around then too. And I have to tell you that even that pissed me off.

Yes, girls should look pretty and cute and have cute undies. But we all complain about kids being too sexually aware and then we buy them Victoria's Secret for starter bras? I had to wait until I was working and could afford the nicer stuff!!

UGH!!

If you want to do what I did, I wouldn't suggest going as hard because it's underwear that only she can see, and not the public. But I would tell her that I think they are inappropriate for her age, and that she should not have them yet. There are some things - like 4" heels - that you need to wait for!!

Geez... stores, and the media and some parents today are taking all of the fun out of really getting to be "our own woman" when we looked forward to a real pair of high heels, a black lacy bra, and other sundries!

*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***

Holy crap - I'm 31 and don't have matching bras & panties. I'm perfectly happy with my Hanes underpants & hand me down bras from my sister. Yeah, that's right - I'm cheap. I am of the opinion that this is not at all appropriate but I'm a hardass. Bikini's one thing but a thong? At 13? No siree!

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

That is what my mom did to my sexy underwear when I started wearing g-strings and thongs. I was about 16 yrs old when I started to wear them I believe. I would wear pants not jeans to school sometimes and I did not want all the boys to be looking at my underwear line. I still kept on buying them and she gave up on throwing them away.

I do believe that at 13 that is too young for them to be wearing sexy underwear. Maybe her BM is unaware of the underwear. I don't know. Or she probably went shopping with her friends and bought it with them. My SD14 when she was in 5th grade (yes 5th grade) started to worry about her underwear line and she wasn't straight out asking for them but she was already hinting. At 13 SD wanted to start wearing sexier underwear. The closest she has gotten to sexy underwear is bikini underwear. When SD is old enough to buy her own sexy clothes she can buy them herself. For now she needs to concentrate on her grades and her attitude towards us and not be worrying about her underwear. The kind of underwear you have described sound too sexy for a 13 yr old.

Throw them out!

CP

This reminds me of SD18; she lives with my in-laws and when she was about 15 she started wearing thong undies. She also had a bad habit of leaving her dirty thongs on the bathroom floor. It finally got the best of my FIL because he took the scissors & cut the strings, lol! SD was mad as hell but unfortunately it didn't stop her from wearing thongs or leaving them on the floor.

It is so tough to keep kids, kids these days. There are so many " too sexy " this out there for the little girls. I think there is moe sexy stuff than there is young and cute. Personally, and this is only me, I would ask her where they came from. I would let DH know and he can address this BM if he think it's a problem. I would guess he might as this is his little girl and like most little girls these days she is growing up too fast.

NOt as bad as SD8 wearing no panties cause her Mommy is too lazy to do laundry or too lazy to go to work to go to the dollar store and buy new ones.

ha ha my dog does the same thing with underwear! SD10 just reuses the same dirty underwear over and over again. We have to treat her like a baby and watch her to make sure she doesn't put dirty underwear back in her dresser drawers. It seems to be a bad habit to break! eewww gross!

I had sexy panties when I was around 14, I felt weird still wearing granny panties lol. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18 though.

I was in a store the other day though and saw thongs for little kids, like 5 year old kids. I was so irritated. I took them and hid them because that's just sick IMO.