Anxious over attys meeting today
Not really sure why, except that maybe BM will come out more upset and angry and start taking out on DH and me again, not to mention SD.
Order was finalized in Oct, but by end of month, already an issue with "interpretation" of the order. DH is very flexible on certain things and feels that as adults, the two of them should be able to work out things not covered by Order. However, BM feels if not in Order, than not to happen. IE DH had no problem about having BM p/up SD at school EOWE for her visitation, but Order does not say that! So BM has to have clarification, for fear DH will file contempt (what a load of crap--DH has never initiated any court proceedings, except to establish CS payments)
Only issue I see is that BM is in contempt right now and hasn't taken her Parenting Teens class which should have been done. Maybe she'll have some consequence for that today--one can only dream }:)
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In my experiences judges do
In my experiences judges do not want to get involved in every "interpretation". They expect people to be adults. In fact, our judge told us his hope and expectation is that eventually as SD grows they can work out what is best for her amongst themselves. If we do make major changes. We document it and make Wingnut sign it, so there is no confusion.
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
And good luck! "God is
And good luck!
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
Yes, you would think that 2
Yes, you would think that 2 adults could set up extra items, change things, etc... as long as both parties agreed, and yes, even signing something is a GREAT idea. Unfortunately, our BPD BM doesn't work that way. EVERYTHING has to be written down or she WILL abuse things and take things for granted if we let her do something ONE time. Oh well. We shall see, Thanks though soversad
ahh - key word ADULT. Some
ahh - key word ADULT. Some grown people aren't really adults, they're large children.
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
I'm pretty sure is dh and I
I'm pretty sure is dh and I stay on SD for the next 6 months or so, she will have surpassed her mother's emotional capabilities. Sad, but true. We're often dealing with 6 year olds in adult bodies.
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
LOL---My BS15 has already
LOL---My BS15 has already surpassed hs BD by about 3 years now is maturity, responsibility and emotional maturity. Shame I didn't see issues of my ex before I married him, but then I wouldn't have a terrific BS.
Thanks rags. SD is almost
Thanks rags. SD is almost 17, and past 3 years have been nightmare w/BM and wanting more time with SD and doing just about ANYTHING to get, including keeping us on edge for various motions and such. Finally had ended in oct (prayerfully, though are expecting another motion sometime in 2010 to modify again) when Judge determined DH was best place STILL for SD (obviously 10 yrs as SCP was enough proof)
I can see BM at the courthouse now (even though just attorneys, supposedly) trying to get her two cents in and wreaking havoc. Hopefully will hear from out atty soon.
thanks all
hadn't heard of that here. I
hadn't heard of that here. I will look into though. She had just dropped her last motion back in Nov. 2008, then filed new one in June 2009, but nothing had really changed.