I have been married for 15 years and raised sd 21 and ss 19 bm has always been a huge pain and caused as much grief as she could yet not providing any $ or support and seeing the kids a few times per year. SD idolizes her and is a huge drama queen even though I have worked 2 jobs devoted all my time to make sure she and her brother have never wanted for anything, had a car , braces,ect. her mom is the greatest and we continually runin her life currently she is not speaking to us for 3 mo. because we got mad her mom came into our home while we were on vacation and went through our stuff for 4 hours and took what she wanted and left a photo on the frig so we would know she was there.

I blame my husband he could never stand up to her he was always afraid she would take the kids even though she left when they were 1 and 3 and he had sole custody. reflecting back I am not sure why I stayed. we could not have childen due to medical issues we could not adopt or have invetro because he already had 2 childen and that should have been enough in all honsety probally because he was afraid it would piss of the ex or sd that and he is so increadabley selfish he had a 50,000. settlement he had been waiting on since the 80's and a dumpy house which he wanted a prenuptial. in the past he and the kids always made me feel like a outsider.

I recently got a large inheartance he is still waiting for his lawsuit and we still live in the dumpy house . but now he loves me so much I am the love of his life we can adopt if I want and I can buy us a brand new house and he will even sell the dumpy house maybe if the market is good.

I am so frustrated I feel like I have been living is hell for years. I would like to make my marriage work but I fell like to much damage has been done and money may be the motivation for the change.