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Submitted by smnikki on Mon, 09/21/2009 - 3:53pm

dh talked to daycare lady, she seemed to think that dh should talk to bm and her bf about the matter, and not call cps, as it would be a long stressful battle.

dh and i discussed that bm's maturity level is not capeable of handeling this situation, and that if bm finds out what ss is saying with out a professional stepping in, possibly he could be made to keep secrets for fear that bm or her bf would do something and then we wouldnt know what was happening with ss over at her home....

i read all the blog and responses to dh, he was a little shaken by the ones that warned to cautious, but all in all still felt that something needs to be done, and by an official who knows what to do. aftr reading all the responses that the daycare lady should have reported it.....dh called her to say that if he calls and tells them she is going to get in trouble for not reporting it, and by law she is required to.

SO....she was not very happy to have to make the call, but according to dh she is infact calling cps.

maybe they will take it more serious since it is a state liscensed care provider, rather than a concerned parent who happens to be in a custody battle.

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Mon, 09/21/2009 - 4:50pm

skids principal told us she had turned BM numerous times in a year and nothing was ever done. So nothing may in fact be done at all.
She may be unhappy about doing it but she better toughen up or find another profession. It is her job and duty to protect children.

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Submitted by smnikki on Mon, 09/21/2009 - 5:16pm

its so annoying to me when a "sweet" person tells you some information, and then refuses to stand up for whats right because they dont want drama...

well at least we know, or at least to the best of our knowledge know that it has been reported, that way if nothing is done we can at least use it against her in court...because it has been reported

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Submitted by KeepsGettingBetter on Mon, 09/21/2009 - 11:30pm

I read your previous blog and I'm so sorry that you, DH and SS are going through this. It's so hard especially when you can't protect your own from harms way.

This is what annoys me about the child protection system. Nothing is ever done until someone is badly hurt, they need to prevent it not wait until it's too late.

I'll cross my figures that that cps look into this and remove your SS from this toxic house.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Tue, 09/22/2009 - 4:52am

I don't know what advice to give, but just want to offer support. Hopefully BM will get scared at least and get BM to stop beating him!

Also maybe you can discuss with SS, that he is NOT to keep secrets from you, no matter what anyone says - a tall order I know, since BM seems to trump all - but it is worth a shot! Please keep us posted and HUGS
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