sigh of relief
So neither DH nor I work a typical work week. Because of this, DH typically gets SK's whenever we both have a few days off together, believing we should all be together as a family (lucky me). We get away with this because BM will do absolutely anything to pass off her kids. So I felt my jaw clench today while DH & I sat down for dinner & to talk about what we had going on this week.
Me "I only have to go to the office for a few hours, will you have BS with you or do I need to leave him with his babysitter?"
DH "no, i'll keep him with me" this is where my shoulders tense & I inhale deeply to prepare to plaster on a thrilled smile...
Me "oh? Are you going to get SK's too?"
DH "no, I think i'll just spend some time with BS" breath of relief. I don't get off so easily most of the time!! Another few days of no SK's. Although to be honest, I sometimes wonder if DH feels like I do. He gets really tense & moody when they're here. He doesn't talk about it, though. I wish we could move away.
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That's rough
It's hard being in the middle. You want your house, your life, your time but the man you love is caught wanting to do more with the skids as well. I'm not trying to say you shouldn't feel the way you do, but something about your post really struck me since my DH acts the same way when the skids are at our house. And even though my feelings really mirror yours, I feel sorry for DH, even after all the hell he's put me through about things. And I too dream of that, for me, Montana ranch where the nearest neighbors are miles away, lol.
Seriously, I feel you and am glad that you get a few days off. Sometimes dads also need to realize that they can be losing time and opportunity with bio kids when they try so hard to give so much free time to skids.
Skids. Have you noticed that skids put SM's on the emotional skids? haha
Hang in there!
I'll have to try that
We've been together for 2 years & only married for 2 months. I feel the same way-that with all the time, money,etc I'm supposed to invest, they'll still not like me & we'll never be a happy family. I fully agree that it's a rough place for DH & he must feel guilty. ~Bookgirl~
OMG
Crayon you just blogged my life... anyways.. I hear you bookgirl... I have so much tension .. I must walk around tense 24/7... go see a Masseuse... treat yourself... if Hubby doesn't think alone time is what's needed... then go spend it by yourself. Don't mean to be harsh... but after years of trying... this is what works for me!