Bio mom is driving me crazy right now. THIRTEEN YEARS....I have been married to DH for 13 years and this woman just will not quit. When I married him, the kids were 15, 12, 8, and 3. 15 year old was in a group home for autism, but DH had custody of SD 12, SD8 and SS3. We have also had three boys together. I have done my best across time to raise these kids with my DH and HATE the word step-mom (You know...because you arent a step to be stepped on). Bio mom has mental issues and has always been a "friend" to the skids...and they know that. They lived in my home..and I didn't allow myself that luxury. I love the kids as mine...that is that. That being said...Bio mom continues to post and re-post crap about me on FB and trash me to the kids. The kids know better..for the most part. SS 16 still goes for visits to his mom's and has a special way of stirring up drama....to get attention. He did this over Christmas and has caused quite a stir. I wanted to get family pictures this year, and so I set it all up. To do so, I had to make sure SS16 was there and not at his moms, get SS27 from the group home 50 miles away, arrange with SD23 and SD21 and their families to be here, etc. I did so the day after Thanksgiving..so all would be home. Bio mom had the SS27 for Thanksgiving..and was going to take SS16 afterwards and switch them. The ONLY time to have ALL the kids here was when Bio mom got SS16. SOOOOO I INVITED her to come take her family pictures at the same time. Putting myself out there and trying to be decent....thought I was doing good. SD23 is a photographer, but has been struggling majorly with Bipolar and has two kids, and I did not want any added stress on her..so I took most of the pictures...just using SD camera. I even took Bio moms pics...even the one of her smooching her new husband ( a pretty decent guy). LONNNGGG STORRYYY...sorry!! Sooooo..... All pics taken...and i later hear that bio mom asked SD23 to edit a picture for her. I expressed my opinion to DH...and my worry about SD23..and was done with the conversation. AT LEAST I THOUGHT SO....
I have now come to understand that SS16 must have needed some attention and shared my conversation with bio mom..and she is now upset with me. When I heard this was when SS16 was there at Christmas and she was trying to convince me that he "didnt mean any harm" when he shared this information with her. WHATEVER!!! He wanted attention and that is just what he got!! We have gone over this and OVER AND OVER AND OVER....what is said here...stays here and vice versa. That being said...he must have worked hard to even hear that..as it was a conversation with just my husband. Sooo.....Bio mom has now unfriended me on FB (SOOOOO WHHHATTTTT) and has proceeded to post MANY random posts that are directed towards me...THATS JUST WHAT SHE DOES!! I have tried to just not worry about it..BUT I am frustrated that she is sharing this drama with SD and causing her more stress when she is struggling already with 2 young kids and Bipolar Disorder. To easy my curiosity..I looked on my DH Facbeook ( She did not unfriend him) to see if she was posting any more "trash talk" messages to me. She had RE-POSTED a post from TWO YEARS AGO in which she was very critical of me. For the world to see (OR HER FRIENDS)...she shared how much she felt I hated her and how controlling and angry I was. She expressed how much her concern was for the kids suffering and disrespect under my care. She also expressed how much she felt I thought she would just disappear. AARRGGGG.....This was a post from TWO YEARS AGO..that she RE-posted...in memorial saying "that she still felt this way and she was getting emotional reading it". I guess I got what I deserved by getting on my DH Facebook. I HATE having this stupid drama going on..I am sick of being sick to my stomach with these feelings!! SD23 NEEDS all of our support right now..and this is not helping at all!!