Beyond frustrated right now
Planned a time for family pictures.....everybody is on board....even picked up Autsitic SS27 for them 45 minutes away....NOW...SD 21 ..who had been ignoring our phone calls finally decides to answer the phone and tells my DH that she does not want to deal with me and will not be doing the pictures....So....IM PISSED...I am going ahead with the pictures...even in her absence...DH and I, SS27, SD23(with her husband and their 2 kids, SS17, and BS 12, BS11, BS9. She said she does not want to be in any confrontations with me....WTF....That just a cop-out for the fact that she is an immature brat who only cares about herself!1
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SOOO MAD....I was fuming as
SOOO MAD....I was fuming as my DH was talking to her..It was as if he was having a fun convo and was all cool with her doing this.....and now he has no flipping idea why I am a bit pissed at him too...I have been planning this for a while now..and now she is not coming......im trying to be ok with it...heck with her....I only raised her since she was 8..and did everything for her that a mother should....
ugggg...his words keep
ugggg...his words keep resonnating through my mind...oh..I hope you guys can get things figured out sometime......NOT...GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR...and work with us (Well..that might have been too much..but at least he could have stood up to her!!!)
She will regret it one day.
She will regret it one day.
You will have a beautiful family picture without her. I would make sure everyone knows that it was her choice to not be there.
Who wants trash in their
Who wants trash in their family pictures?
ug...now my husband and I
ug...now my husband and I just had it out....over the fact that I am frustrated at him.....that I cannot completely separate my emotions about her and the way he just lets her walk all over him!@!@
please tell me I am not the
please tell me I am not the only one who just CANNOT separate the stupid and mean choices of adult skids with adulat parent who is a softie!!
The picture in itself is
The picture in itself is going to be the proof - the problem wont be in it! Forget about her, so what if you raised her since she was 8 and did everything a mother would - she's being a royal biotch right not so forget about her! If Dh doesn't care, why should you. Have a family pic of those who cared to show up.
I am going ahead with the
I am going ahead with the pictures....gonna make it a great day..just tired of feeling this sick feeling in the pit of my stomach every time I think about her and the situation. My little boys adore her..and she doesnt even give them the time of day. She is a self-absorbed...immature brat....SOOOOOO need to disengage.easier sad than done..I just want us to be a family..is that so bad??
Do you really want to be
Do you really want to be family with someone like that?
I think you have an idea in your head of the lovely blended family you want but that's not the reality.
Take a look at the good people in your family and life and be grateful for them, let go of the imaginary ideal and love what you actually do have.
heaven..thanks for your well
heaven..thanks for your well thought out comments. I appreciate that you took the time to go back and read my other posts...and try to understand me. My husband and I do share the same religion..we are LDS. When I married him, I had the intention of stepping in as a mom to the kids....and wife to my husband. I knew I would not be replacing their mom....just being there with my husband and raising our family. The kids' mom was not there...physically and mentally...all ways. I went in with Rosy glasss and hopes of our family to be successful. I know I probably should have stepped back and had him be more a parents....but with his work schecule..it just happened that way. Regrests....dont change anything!! As far as me being a bit controlling...yep..I can be at times..especially when it comes to my family. I am working on that..and lettting go when needed. My relationship with SD23 is great...NOW!! That is somenthing we have worked hard on....and have overcome much. SS17 is ADD and does require a lot of extra effort to allow him to be successful. He is a senior this year...so I am struggling to step back and let my husband "urge" him forward. This is the age and time when all the struggles...DRAMA happened with SD21..so I want to avoifd that at all costs!! He lacks personal/internal motivation...so SOMEONE has to be there. .....and his mom BM has now chosen to move..and relocate 3 hours away.... My boys (the 4 at home) are my life!! Thanks for all of your advice!!
we did do the pictures. I
we did do the pictures. I wish that Sd21 was in them..but I cannot allow her to have control over the whole family..just because...of her choices!! I have a great relationship with other SD23 at this time....one we both have worked really hard to build. She feels that we should not post the pictures or use them...because Sd21 was not in them. We are honest with each other..I told her that I understand her feelings..but I also will not allow other SD to control our family that way. I also mentioned that I am not going to be mean when people ask..but will be honest that SD CHOSE not to be in the family pictures. I dont want to damage my relationship with her....there was a time when we struggled....but have come SOOOO far...I dont want her to feel like she is in the middle. I really beleive she knows and understands my heart!!