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I just want to rip my hair out.

unbelieveable's picture

Seriously...Dh has No custody agreement. Shame on him. He never has. Never will. He has been calling the girls since Friday night - he worked all weekend so he/we did not have them. BM has been refusing to answer the phone. Cool. Make the kids suffer. He hasn't seen them since Thursday night - he got them for a few hours because he had to work and couldn't get them during the weekend. He calls tonight and go figure she answers and does not have them with her...as she seems to never even have them with her. They get into a heated argument. She wants him to keep the girls Friday and Saturday this weekend. Now - last week she asked him if he could get them the two nights during the week he is off when school is out, okay. Fine. Then she will have them on the weekends. Let me explain his new work schedule...I hate it. It's complicated. He works every other weekend Friday, Saturday, and Sunday 6ato6p...Then he has two whole days off during the week but works 6 to 6 the rest...I don't get it - but whatever. That's his schedule. But in between these weekends - he is off the whole weekend- so right now he gets the girls the weekend he is off over night (one or two nights - depends on if we have plans that weekend) - then when he can't get them due to work on the weekend - he gets them usually on a Thursday for like 5 hours. It USED to be every weekend until his schedule changed - before that he was off Thursday Friday and Saturday - so he'd have them Thursday into Friday after noon - they'd go home - and then he would have then Saturday into Sunday - his work schedule changed again and it turned to every weekend. Now it's that EOW and a few hours thing. So basically - he has them as much as he can right now. Anyway - starting next week he is to have them two nights during the week to help her out during the week because she works- which is fine. She is now saying - she wants him to either get them MORE or they are going to court...so basically - she wants him to have them those two nights during the week and Friday/Saturday night? is she an idiot? This means they will be here 4 nights a week? What does she think the court is going to say when they are here 4 nights a week? And three with her? So we will have them more and she thinks this will raise her CS? What? I said - hey - do what she wants - we will document it - and she won't get them back. She's ridiculous. I hope she's having fun with her new boyfriend, lol.

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unbelieveable's picture

We don't mind having them - In fact- I feel better when they are here with us...we provide structure and we always plan things for them we are always busy. Here, I know sd9 is being a kid...not babysitting. And I know sd7 will be treated as a 7 year old and not a baby. I guess I am just frustrated that he will still be paying her full CS due to no custody agreement. We are pretty lenient when it comes to taking them on whenever...I don't think we should have them more than she does though when she's not paying him CS. Does that make sense? I really hate his new work schedule ALOT! Ahhhh!